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Dear Normal High School Student,
I understand your problem perfectly, and you obviously like your
girlfriend a lot, and want to sort out this problem.
Whose Problem Is It?
You mention that she finds it boring when you talk about school,
and she finds it boring when you talk about your feelings for her.
Why is it up to you to find interesting things to talk about? Does
your girlfriend see this as a problem for both of you, or just your
problem?
You Shouldn't Have to Think About It
This is my experience of life: When you find someone that you really
connect with, and share a special bond with, you won't have to think
of things to talk about. When I met the guy that I'm with now, we
sat and talked in McDonald's for hours, and then when and sat in
a park, and talked and talked.
We couldn't stop talking, the conversation just flowed, and I knew
just from being with him for one day, that there was something special
between us, because I didn't HAVE to think of things to say. Not
only could we talk like there was no tomorrow, but when there was
a moment when we had nothing to say, it didn't feel uncomfortable.
You Should Enjoy the Moments of Silence
We could just enjoy the moment or two of silence. I have been with
him over a year now, and sometimes we sit near each other for hours,
and don't say anything, but it doesn't feel uncomfortable, because
we're comfortable with each other.
If after two months, you two are not communicating in the way you
would like, you need to think about this: If you are struggling
to find anything to say to her, it means that you feel uncomfortable
when there is nothing to say. You shouldn't need to feel like that
with your girlfriend.
Move On
Maybe you need to think about moving on from her, and finding someone
that you share a special bond with. If you stay with this girl,
there won't be room for someone new. Sometimes when things like
this happen, it's a sign to say move on, and enjoy your freedom.
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