Dear Normal High School Student,

This Is a Big Problem

Actually, all couples should be able to enjoy a moment of silence.

If the conversation is already drying up, it's a problem since running out of things to talk about is not a good sign at all. Talk is a big problem.

You're in a deep relationship? Normal, you've both got to expand the conversation to make this a truly deep relationship.

You've got to get to know each other better beyond what you're feeling are to make the relationship stronger. I'm not discounting your feelings at all. Feelings are excellent but you will find the more you learn about each other that will enhance those feelings, for better and worse, if this relationship is going anywhere.

When the other person knows how you feel about them, it can be a disadvantage. She obviously has feelings for you, otherwise she wouldn't be with you.

Talk About Other Interests

There's got to be some other things to talk about. What's she interested in outside of school? What are you interested in outside of school? Music? Books? Why almost no NHL teams hail from Canada now? Where is she going to college?

Open Your Heart

I agree. They could even talk about this problem.

You're in school every day. Talk about things to get your minds away from school work or subjects, or at least jump those conversations into something fresh. If you feel deeply about each other, open that heart a little when you talk about things and see if she's willing to open hers.

Share Experiences You Can Talk About Later

Do things together completely separate from school to give yourself experiences to talk about. Go roller skating, ice skating. The more comfortable you feel with each other the easier it will be to say anything or talk about anything with her. Also, try doing things together with friends where other topics can come up and you can get different perspectives or ideas.

You May Or May Not Work Through It

This kind of thing is not unusual, Normal. Talking is a BIG deal. If it's not there, it's not. Don't sweat it. It's a stage every couple goes through whether you're high school sweethearts or married 40-somethings. Some can work through and build a stronger relationship. Other times, it's like exchanging a shirt at a department store. You talk to a cute girl in a Cardigan sweater. She smiles at you. Pleasantries are exchanged. Then suddenly you've got your money, you've signed the receipt and there's nothing left to say except 'thank you' and 'where did I park?'

I hope this helps you. I wish you and your girl the best of luck.

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