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Dear Stuck,
It sounds like you have landed yourself a really good guy! An ugly
guy---but a good guy! Just kidding!
Anyhow, your concern about not being attracted to him physically
is huge. Especially when you consider that you have to look at your
spouse for the rest of your life (ideally).
Physical Attraction Is Very Important
Physical attraction is important in any relationship, whether it
is dating or marriage.
I know this sounds shallow, but you not being attracted to him
could cause HUGE problems in the future. And if you haven't gotten
over this in a year, then imagine how much worse it will get.
Can The Problem Be Fixed?
But I am curious to know, what is it about him that you don't find
physically attractive? And is this something that a salon, gym,
tanning salon or surgeon can fix? I am not even kidding!! Some people
have potential to be good looking, they just need a nudge in the
right direction.
Now if he looks like the elephant man, then he is a lost cause,
but if he is just not GQ material, cut the poor man some slack!
 You
Shouldn't Have Gotten So Involved
All in all, I am disappointed that you have spent so long with
this man if you are not truly attracted to him in every way. You
are cheating yourself and him. Good guys are hard to find, but you
should have kept your criteria up in the beginning before you got
your feelings too involved.
You'll End Up With Ugly Kids
So figure out if his attractiveness can be helped, and if it can't,
move on. You will just end up unhappy, having ugly kids and cheating.
Sorry! That's the truth!
Good luck!
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