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Dear Wounded Karma,
Dude, I had to read this three times to get the gist of it all.
She was killed in an explosion? Are we talking Kosovo, Bosnia, Sri
Lanka? Faking your death seems a extreme for an online love, BUT,
with love, insanity is the norm. You're right. It does sound insane
that all those things happened to her in one year's time, but it
is certainly possible. It's like a John LeCarre novel, and you,
my man, may be the Naïve and Sentimental Lover.
Maybe Your E-mail Was Blocked
I'm curious. Were her final e-mails to you responsive to what you
had said in your final e-mails? What I mean is, did you sense any
doubt your e- mails weren't getting through to her before you heard
she was dead?
Maybe your emails were blocked or intercepted causing her to believe
you were no longer interested and you are just being fed a line
by Lucky and Mike. They are suspect. Plus, can you truly believe
someone you communicate with online?
Do you have any independent proof Missy was in theater, i.e. theater
house playbills, acting troops that may have known her, productions,
etc.? Did she directly refer to Lucky as her brother in any e-mail?
Do you have her photo? Place of birth and birth date? Date of death?
Find Out What Happened
You need a trail to find someone because no matter where they are,
people bleed words, which find their way to paper. Try to get hooked
up with someone through the international press in that country.
Associated Press, CNN, Reuters or somebody will have reported or
known something about an explosion that killed four people. Get
in touch with the American Red Cross and see if they can hook up
with a chapter in the country to learn anything. Get online and
try to find someone or something that can translate her language.
Explain the situation, copy the latest article you found to them
and ask if they know anyone in the country whom you could contact.
Try a college professor that speaks the language. Maybe she or he
will know who wrote the article or have a way to contact someone
connected with the theater troop or involved in theater in her country.
Perhaps they can friend-of-a-friend contact with someone who lived
near her town or province.
You need to develop other sources beyond Mike and Lucky to verify
whether or not she's alive. Of course given your explanation, you've
most likely exhausted the above options.
You May Have Been Dumped
Worst case scenario: She's an actress playing a 1 1/2 year role.
Put two and two together and realize you've been bamboozled, or
just dumped. Move on and tell this one to you grandkids.
Her Family Might Not Like You
Best case scenario (if you can call it that): The family didn't
like you and unbeknownst to her, told you she was dead and told
her you didn't want to see her again. It's happened before in fact
and fantasy. Or maybe they just ordered her to stop seeing you.
Exhaust All Avenues
What would I do? Geez, you WOULD ask that wouldn't you, Karma?
I'd exhaust all avenues. Find out the real deal. Call the U.S. embassy
in her country. Call John McCain. Heck, call Stephen Sondheim.
The question you must ask is: How badly do I want to know the truth
and how far am I willing to go to know it? Do I care enough to risk
being a schmuck or learning that I've been played like a sucker
just to know? Because you CAN know, Karma. And let's face it, what
else on this planet is worth making a fool of yourself over except
love?
I hope you get a few good breaks. Good luck and wishing you the
best.
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