Dear Panel,
I am an 18-year-old female. This is the
first time I've been involved in a serious relationship.
Mike is 20-years-old, was incarcerated 3 years ago,
but turned his life around. He has a son, and was in
love once but cheated on his girlfriend. She broke up
with him.
In the past, he told my best friend he
was attracted to her. I managed to forgive him and two
months later, we got back together.
I'm Not Supposed to See Him
My parents told me that I wasn't allowed
to see Mike because he's not the type of guy I should
be with, considering his past. However, I continued
talking to him until my parents found out that I'd been
sneaking to see him.
I Lost My Parents Trust
I lost my parents trust, and they think
I'm stupid because they feel Mike doesn't care about
me at all. Now I'm not allowed to contact any of my
friends or Mike. Plus all my privileges are gone.
My Friends Say He's Cheating
Before this happened, my best friend Jane
kept telling me that I am wasting my time with Mike
and that I should just forget him. After all that I
went through to be with him, the idea that I care so
much about a person who doesn't care about me is unthinkable.
Especially now, that my friend thinks he's cheating
on me. I hate to think I fought for this relationship
in vain.
Now I'm Suspicious
I tried calling him and he's never home.
Now it's starting to look suspicious, because I called
him at 9 am on a Saturday morning and he wasn't home.
Where could he be? I don't know who to believe anymore.
After all that I went through, this is the worst thing
he could do to me right now.
Should I talk to him and find out if he
is cheating, or cut off all contact like my friend suggests?
Female, age 18, New York
Natalie,
Megan,
Aaron,
and Reese
answer this question.