|
Dear Untrusting,
Dump Him, Now
Dump him. Don't draw things out, don't put it off, just do it.
Why call to ask if he's cheating? Your friend thinks so, you even
think so.Don't over look your gut feeling. If you think there is
something going on, it probably is.
He's A Cheater
You know how much you care about Mike, would you cheat on him?
No. He was in love with this other woman, did he cheat on her? Yes.
If he can cheat on someone he is in love with, what has changed
to keep him loyal?
This guy is totally unloyal. You put yourself on the line for him,
messsed up your relationship with your parents, and what is the
thanks you get? He doesn't call and doesn't answer the phone. Things
were fine when you snuck out to see him, it showed how devoted you
were. But now, when things are ruff, when you aren't at his beck
and call, he leaves you high and dry.
It's hard. It's going to get harder, but you have to just put him
on the mistake pile and move on. Don't call and ask for details
or for a confirmation on what you already know to be true. That's
what he wants you to do. He wants you to hang on and suffer, or
he would have just ended things himself.
 Women
Are Givers
This is something that women have done forever. Women are givers
and men are receivers. If your situation where a movie, you would
be rewarded for your love by getting the guy and living happily
ever after. The kind of movie where the princess gives up her birth
right to travel off into the sunset with her poor lover. That's
why it's a movie, not real.
Life Is Not A Fairy Tale
When girls are little we read about Sleeping Beauty and Snow White
who ride off with there Prince Charming. That is why we fool ourselves
into thinking that our men will turn around and save the day. That's
what's suppossed to happen.
Guys Don't Change
Mike is no prince charming. You can't change him, and he won't
change himself. I mean really, he has a wonderfully trusting woman
like you to hang onto while he has some other girl hidden away to
cheat with. People don't change. He is and will always be a rotten
guy that gets his kicks cheating on his girlfriends.
You
Deserve More
Most importanly, be strong. Your heart says hang on, but you have
to look at the big picture. Focus on yourself. You deserve better.
You can do better.
Try to improve your relationship with your parents aand gain their
trust. They are your parents forever. And, if you think about it,
they were pretty right on about Mike. Keep focus on the future.
You're 18, young and starting your life. You're going to be going
to school or moving out on your own soon. Do what will improve you,
not what will get you closer to some guy.
All my best wishes,
–
|
