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Dear Confused,
Don't Bring It Up
If you're just casually dating, I'd recommend NOT bringing
up the fact that you're very inexperienced. It can be awkward
for both you and your date, and it doesn't accomplish anything.
The fact of the matter is, the guy will never know that you're
not necessarily a dating pro unless you tell him.
This Is Not An Unusual Situation
Another thing to keep in mind is that you are really not
in any sort of unique situation. It's not unusual to have
not dated a lot, or at all, before you head off to college.
I'm evidence of this. I went out on my first date and experienced
my first kiss just before I turned 18. I lost my virginity
a week before my 19th birthday. So don't think that yours
is a special or strange situation, it's not.
Obviously, you're not doing yourself any favors in trying
to get dates by alienating the guys who are attracted to you.
Being an interesting date and being a good kisser are always
concerns early on, but honestly, far too many people neglect
these things well into their dating lives. They choose not
to concern themselves with whether they're boring their partner
to death or whether he or she may not really want a tongue
down his or her throat.
 Tune
In To Your Date
So ultimately it's a lot more considerate if you're a little
bit concerned. You know how they say that those couples who
worry most about their abilities as parents will make the
best parents? Well if you're concerned about whether your
date's having a good time, you'll be more in tune to his needs.
Just be sure not to let a little self-consciousness ruin *your*
fun.
If it helps, think of all those people out there who've had
dozens of partners and are terrible kissers/conversationalists/dancers/whatever
regardless. The point is, if you're going to be a terrible
kisser after a little practice, you're a terrible kisser,
period. Then suddenly the fact that you've kissed a whopping
49 guys becomes irrelevant, doesn't it?
Good luck,
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