Dear Confused,

Take it easy on yourself! You do have experience going out with girlfriends, and the friends part is key here!

Dating Doesn't Mean a Relationship

First of all, going out once or twice with someone does NOT a relationship make. Also, you can go out with someone, whether or not you think you are ready for a relationship. Sometimes you get a friendship with a man, not a relationship.

The best part of a relationship is the friendship, the sharing, and the next best part is the emotional, then the physical intimacy. 

It's Just Like Being With Girlfriends

If you are interested in dating someone, never assume any burden of how you should behave, or what you should do or say. You know how to speak to your friends, it should be no different here!

You Don't Have To Tell Him

As you get farther along in time spent together, you may or may not want to share with him that he is your first dating experience. It's something that will come up eventually only if you want it to.

Wrong. She should tell him how she feels.

It might scare off some men, or interest someone in trying to take advantage of you, but hopefully, if he is worthy, and a good friend, it should be fine if you tell him later on. He will never know, though, if you treat him with the respect and compassion you should be treating your girlfriends with!

Don't Worry So Much

Don't read anything into it all. Relationships happen to some little kids. When you go in wanting to be friends, and just let it flow, it will be comfortable.

Don't worry so much about everything, people have been having first dates for centuries and look, a couple of successful, long term relationships have come to pass! 

Let Your Self-Confidence Shine Through

Why don't you look into the mirror and tell yourself how exciting this part of your life is, and what wonderful adventures you have ahead of you. Look forward with anticipation, not panic! Get comfortable with yourself and who you are, what you like, and your self-confidence will shine through to interest someone in a relationship after they have looked past your outer beauty. Inner beauty is really everything.

Good luck bubala.

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