Dear Sigh,

I don't believe him. It's an obsession and he may act on it.

He's said it, you've said it. "These are just his fantasies."

Let It Go

From the things you say, it seems to me that you've got yourself a great guy
who treats you well. Does the porn interfere with your sex life? If it doesn't (and it sounds like it doesn't), you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

Now ask yourself, what truly concerns you about his porn habit? Is it that he looks at porn at all, or because he views pictures of girls who look so young?

Most People Have Racy Fantasies

If the reason is the latter, again, let it go. Fantasy is 99% of the time just that. If you could poll a random sample of Americans I'm sure you'd come up with a lot of fantasies whose raciness far surpasses the taboo aspects of this one.

If you're uncomfortable with the porn altogether, though, that's another issue entirely. I personally have had recent issues with my boyfriend viewing porn, but it was because I felt he used it as a substitute for coming to me when he was in the mood. I felt lonely and undesirable.

If you have these feelings you should talk to him about them. The nature of the pornography shouldn't be a point for discussion.

Talk About It and Work Out A Compromise

Yeah. Maybe they can share a fantasy.

If your intent is to get him to give up porn altogether, you may be headed for rough waters. You'd be better off talking about it together and finding a way to incorporate the porn and/or each other's secret fantasies into your own sex life more actively.

Good luck,