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Dear Faye,
First off you must realize there is nothing wrong with you. Consider
this. It's been three years since you've been together. You're 21
right now, so you've been together since you were 18.
Most People Your Age Are Out There Dating
Now that we've established that I can still do basic arithmetic,
consider the sciences of the matter. Most people around your age
are still out "dating".
By that I mean that they are still more concerned with finding
a fun person to be with more than a life partner and they may go
through multiple people before it hits them that the one there with
is more than fun.
So you're desire to meet people is caused by that. You shouldn't
be too concerned that you're being unfaithful or something like
that because you're not actively going behind you're boyfriends
back and doing something with these blokes.
As for Clark, this could be one of two things. He could be an incarnation
of what I call "missing-the-boat syndrome" or he could
be someone you actually want to be with.
Considering the rather minimal amount of information you've given
me, I'll try to say what I can about both issues.
 You're
Afraid To Lose Your Boyfriend
Say for a second it is "missing-the-boat syndrome", this
simply means that you have developed a liking for Clark but because
you are in a relationship and thus can't choose him, you are afraid.
You are afraid that if you do choose him the guy you're with will
disappear and turn out to be the right one and that Clark was a
bad choice. But if you stay with your current man, you'd wonder
about the might-have-beens.
Missing-the-boat syndrome has one dangerous effect: the liking
of the person you do not have multiplies exponentially to what you
truly feel simply because you do not and may not have them.
Why Do You Like Clark?
Now lets think about the other scenario. What if you're actually
starting to really like this guy? Since you didn't tell me about
your past together or why you like him so much you'll have to ask
yourself that. The answers to those questions are what will help
you out.
You Can Be Friends, But It's Not Likely
Is it it possible for you to just be friends? Yes. Is it likely?
Not really. You two have expressed an interest for each other and
that sexual tension will drag on.
I'm not saying it's impossible to be friends remember. There are
those who overcome the sexual tension and end up as really good
friends. But the list of people I know who've done this successfully
is actually close to nil.
– Buddy
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