Dear Faye,

I agree. Especially since most people her age are out there dating.

Three years is a long time to date someone. Heck, a lot of marriages don't last three years these days. So it's not uncommon to settle into a routine with your significant other that loses that spark.

You're Bored

I agree. If she's bored, it's just a passing crush.

If you're just bored, that's something that can be solved.

If, however, you honestly don't know if you love him, that's a real problem. And chances are if you're questioning it, you probably don't.

Don't Call Clark

My guess is that your issue goes deeper than boredom. You're seriously second-guessing your feelings and you're actively considering pursuing other guys. This is NOT normal behavior in a healthy relationship and if there's any chance that you might want to work on your relationship then please DON'T contact Clark. You're just asking for trouble if you head down that road.

Spice Things Up

If you think long and hard and determine that it is just that you're bored (and chances are good that you'll have to reach down deep to figure out what the answer really is, so I hope you're not looking for a quick fix), don't be too hard on yourself. It happens to everyone at some point in lengthy relationships.

I often find myself wondering what my boyfriend and I could change about our routine to spice things up or to just acquire a periodic change of pace. In that case, talk to your boyfriend and try to brainstorm your way to some adventurous ideas for your lives. Chances are he feels the same way.

Good luck,

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