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Dear Lost My Virginity,
You are not responsible for what your ex-boyfriend does. Even when
he says he is doing it for love of you, it is NOT your fault or
responsibility.
He's Got Problems
He has serious problems that need serious attention, and his attempting
suicide and trying to force you to marry him are all symptoms of
his problems.
Tell An Adult About Him
It is time to tell an adult about your ex-boyfriend. If you want
to help him, then get him the attention of people who can help him
solve his real problems. The stuff that makes him so sad and scared
and angry that he is doing things like trying to kill himself.
Marriage will NOT help him. Having sex will NOT help him.
Tell one of your parents or an adult you know and trust about what
he's been doing. At first he may be angry and yell a lot but he
will get the help he needs, and that's what's important for both
of you.
That's the very best thing you can do for him. And the best thing
you can do for yourself, is to take care of yourself. Your situation
sounds confusing and scary and painful. Losing your virginity and
not remembering it is serious.
 Talk
To An Adult About Sex
Find a friend, an adult one if possible, to talk about what happened
and how you feel about it. There are consequences to sex - like
pregnancy and STD's - that you need to talk about too.
You've been through a lot, and it's all very serious. Please reach
out to adults in your life, don't try and carry this alone any more.
I'll be thinking of you and wishing good things for you.
– Bella
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