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Dear Girl on Rebound,
He Can Dish It Out
It sounds like your ex has a nice set of double standards working
for him. He can dish it out, but he can't take it when it's his
turn, so to speak.
It's Not An Age Thing
I'm not sure the age difference is to blame here. They say girls
mature faster than guys, but at 28 he should be acting in a more
mature manner than he is.
He Invaded Your Privacy
Of course he could just be on a power trip- by manipulating the
situation to make you seem at fault even though HE was the one who
initiated the whole episode by doing the wrong thing of invading
your privacy. He blames you for not being trustworthy, yet he is
not himself.
Friendship Is An Option
I can definitely understand that you miss him, a year and a half
is a long time. And a friendship may certainly be an option.
However, he needs to learn to drop his double standards, that everyone
screws up once in a while (even in a minor way), and that forgiveness
(to a degree) is part of a healthy relationship.
Until he learns those things, you'll probably always feel a little
humiliated by the way he speaks to you, unless you stand up for
yourself.
Tell Him What You Think
Let him know what you think and don't let him make you feel ashamed
in any way for the mistakes you might have made. (Or the actions
that were interpreted as mistakes).
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