Dear Panel,

I read about Andy who faced a similar question.

I was married to a beautiful woman 10 years ago but she died shortly after we were married.

I am very close to her family, especially her younger sister, whom I've had feelings for for quite sometime now. I don't know why I have these feelings, she's 10 years younger than me, but I can't help them. I've grown in love with her more and more over the years.

I have a girlfriend I've been with for 6 years and we have 2 beautiful children. Our relationship isn't that great but I think we stay together for the kids.

I want to tell my sister-in-law how I feel, but her mom is like my mom and they mean so much to me as a family. I would hate to hinder that in any way. My heart is on the verge of exploding. Help!

– DP

Male, age 29, USA