Dear DP,

Your problem would seem to be a matter of choice whether to tell your feelings to your sister-in-law or not.

Ask Yourself Two Questions

Are you really sure of your feelings? Does she feel the same way about you?

Her Parents Would Be Happy If You Got Together

No way. This would jeopradize his relationship with her famiy.

If you answered "yes" to both questions, then why would you be afraid that your closeness with her parents would change? If you are true to your intentions, and have been a long time friend of her parents, they won't be bothered at all. They very much think of you as part of their family?

Are You Sure Of Your Feelings?

If you answered one or both questions with "no", then you are afraid to voice out your feelings because you are not really sure of them. This is why you fear loosing the special friendship you have with her family.

Talk With Your Girlfriend First

I agree. He has to really evaluate his current relationship.

Work out your relationship with your girlfriend first. If you're really sure you're just staying because of the kids, and you want to be free, then talk about it. Do it for yourself. Give yourself some space and time to carefully sort things out. This will help you understand your feelings more deeply.

If you are really sure in your heart and in your mind, of who and what you really want with your life, go for it!

It's Risky

One word spoken cannot be undone. You risk losing the friendship with her family and also risk losing your kids. Do consider if your feelings for your sister-in-law only occurred because of the strained relationship with your girlfriend.

Remember, don't do things hastily. You don't want to have any regrets later on.

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