Dear Chauncey,

This gentleman sounds pretty confused and his confusion is making you confused.

Stop The Booty Calls

First of all. You need to stop having the proverbial BOOTY call immediately. Why should he commit to you when you are simply giving it away?

He's Got To Make A Decision

It really isn't a choice. She can't compete with his family.

Second, only time can heal this man and as much as you care for him, you will be unable to help him until he makes up his mind to let things go. It's unfair of him to keep you at arms length while he tries to get it together. You are being unfair to yourself by allowing yourself to be USED in this manner.

Tell Him To Decide Who He Wants

I would tell him, "I care about you however, I am not going to play second fiddle to anyone." I would tell him that he needs to get his act together and figure out what he wants and to not contact you until he figures that out. You are not a TOY to be used at his convenience.

If he does choose Chauncey, they're going to need counseling.

I know this sounds harsh but this will benefit you in one of 2 ways. He will either get it together and figure out once and for all what he wants, or this will allow you to find someone who wants to be with you and gives you the respect you deserve.

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