Dear Chauncey,

OUCH! Is putting it way to lightly. I would need come major medical attention after the emotional abuse you have suffered from this relationship. I could go on and on and on, but to get the point across to you.... RUN FOR THE HILLS!

There Are Five Big Problems

One, you said that he can not commit. Two, sleeping with him has affected your self esteem. Three, his delusions of grander are hard to stack up to. Four, sounds like his ex enjoys the hold she has on the guy. Five, scared or not, he say he feelings for you and he wants his family, even you said you don't like his emotional instability.

It's Either Her Or You

It really isn't a choice. She can't compete with his family.

Basically, it all boils down to one thing. Either he wants to commit to the relationship he has with you, or he wants to work it out with his ex.

If He Chooses You, Get Counseling

If he decides his future is with you, then I suggest some couples counseling. You both need to rebuild trust, open the doors of communication and learn to appreciate one another and what you can give and share with each other.

If he decides to go back to the ex, then let him go. I know, it will be hard, but sweetie, you have a lot to offer, and maybe he is not meant to be the one you offer them too.

Get Counseling By Yourself

If I felt "insecure and cheap" with a guy, that would be my signal to get help, get out and rebuild. A counselor might be just what you need. Someone to help you figure out why being "insecure and cheap" was something you were willing to endure.

If a counseling is not something you can swing, get a journal and start writing down how you feel and what made you feel that way. Then at the end of the week, or month, reread what you wrote and see what you can learn from it.

I wish you all the best luck, in life, love and your pursuit of happiness. You deserve it!!

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