Dear Stephanie,

I'm not exactly sure how your boyfriend wants you to change your spirituality; much like your beliefs, values, and so forth, spirituality is something that comes from deep within YOU. It helps shape who you are.

He's Trying To Better Himself

He's NOT trying to better himself. He's looking for a way out.

It is wonderful that he is trying to better himself, but it sounds to me as if he's shutting some people out of his life in the process. Unfortunately, you're getting stuck right in the middle of a proverbial rock and hard place.

He Should Respect Your Beliefs

I know that love is a strong emotion, and that right now it hurts you a lot to consider the possibility of not being with him. But he has to respect you- and that includes respecting who you are.

Find Someone Who Respects Your Beliefs

If he can not accept your spirituality as it is, then you perhaps need to consider finding someone who will.

If You Want To Work It Out, Take A Break

No, I think she should go to church with him.

I'd suggest sitting down with him and explaining exactly how you feel. If he continues to insist that you change something that is so deeply part of your soul, then let him know you'll be taking a break from the relationship- if you still truly love him and want to work things out. A break might give him time to sort things out and work through his confusion.

If it doesn't, you should make a definite decision based on the circumstances as they are.

Be True To Yourself

Just remember that love is about acceptance and respect (at least partly), and these are two key elements missing in your relationship right now. Stay true to yourself.

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