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Dear Stephanie,
The short answer is "no", you should not change your
religion to keep your boyfriend. Think about it. God is a whole
lot bigger than your boyfriend. Do you think he will really fall
for anything short of a total commitment? Would your boyfriend believe
you anyway?
You May Be Due For A Spiritual Journey
That said, there may be a value in you taking an interest in your
boyfriend's spiritual journey. You say that you believe in God and
that you have a need for him in your life. I'm no pastor but it
sounds to me like you may be due for a spiritual journey of your
own.
You Have The Same Values
Since you spent a year together, I assume that you and your boyfriend
have some things in common, therefore it is reasonable that something
that makes sense and has value to him may for you as well.
Go To Church With Him
Go to church with him. Ask him to tell you about the commitment
he has made to God. Ask him what led him to make that commitment.
Ask him how he knows that what he believes is true? Ask him all
of your questions.
Chances are he has answered most of them for himself. If
he hasn't then he isn't really much of a Christian.
You May Accept Christianity for Yourself
Don't think of this as a way to "win him back." This
is for you. This is a chance for you to discover something about
the world and maybe yourself. At some point you will know for sure
whether or not you want to be a Christian.
If You Reject Christianity, Walk Away From Him
If you explore and learn and decide that Christianity is not for
you, don't commit. Walk away knowing that you put your best effort
into learning about your boyfriend's faith and that you two are
simply not meant to be together.
There is, of course, a possibility that through all of this exploration
you will discovery that you also believe as he does and want to
become a Christian.
You Shouldn't Be A Couple If You Don't Convert
That still will not guarantee that you will get your boyfriend
back. However, as long as your boyfriend is a "strict"
Christian and you are not, the two of you should not be together
as a couple.
The heartbreak involved in the potential marriage is just not worth
it. Good luck and happy exploring.
– Jody
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