How do I trust men if they all want is to jump me?

Dear Panel,

As a child I was sexually abused and I have been raped. People wish they could look like me, but I don't...

I can't and won't let anyone get physicaly close to me...How do I get over my insecurites?

-- Lexie

Female, age 17, Southern Hemisphere

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Take things slow and ignore the creeps!		You SHOULD be able to trust. Talk to a counselor.
Take things slow and ignore the creeps!	You can't trust people. Learn self defense!	You SHOULD be able to trust. Talk to a counselor.	I know from experience, it will be difficult.
	You can't trust people. Learn self defense!		I know from experience, it will be difficult.

Dear Panel,

I am the girl that guys wish they could be with and the girl that girls wish they could be.

I Have A Great Boyfriend

My boyfriend is perfect; goodlooking and smart. We have a great mental relationship and have been together for almost a year now. We are deeply in love. However nothing physical has happened since we first met because I have a horrific history with males.

I'm A Survivor of Abuse

As a child I was sexually abused and I have been raped. People wish they could look like me, but I don't. Old men follow me around. It's so scary. I get harassed wherever I go.

I Can't Get Physically Close

Anyway, I can't and won't let anyone get physicaly close to me, like my boyfriend. I trust him to death but it's hard to overcome this fear.

How do I get over my insecurites?

-- Lexie

Female, age 17, Southern Hemisphere

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