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Dear Hopelessly In Love,
Have you heard of the saying that a fruit forced to ripen ahead
of time unnaturally will not taste as sweet as that of a naturally
ripen fruit? In short, you cannot change a
person until he is ready. Else you will not reap the dreams you've
been wanting to happen.
Its a fact that the majority of long distance relationships don't
last. Those that do are usually the very fortunate ones.
Four years may be enough justification for YOU to say that he's
the right one. But those 4 years are not enough for him.
He's Not Ready For Marriage
Learn to accept that fact. He may be in love with you, but not
to the point that he's willing enough to commit and share his goals
and dreams with you.
It may be possible that there are certain self fulfillment's he
still wants to achieve for himself, before he can commit.
Ask Him About His Plans
What to do? Communicate to him how you're feeling and tell him
your future plans. Ask him about his plans and see if they includes
you. Then, you'll know.
If he includes you in his plans but doesn't give you any definite
time frame, then you will have to make a choice. Can you wait
until he's ready to commit? If yes, don't build you're hopes up,
always keep in mind that there will still be a possibility
you'll not end up together.
But how long will you wait for him?
 You'll
End Up Resenting Him
One setback with waiting, is the possibility that you
may develop resentment if things do not turn out positively.
Deciding matters of the heart are the hardest decisions you'll
ever have to make. Even great analysts can't make anything out of
it. Simply because there is no right or wrong answer.
Moving on with life is the only way to go, so don't wait long.
Whichever road you decide to take, just charge the bad times to
experience. At least you will know better the next time around.
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