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Dear Hopelessly In Love,
You asked the question that women have been asking forever. And
unfortunately, your boyfriend is the majority of men who fear the
dreaded "M" word.
Why Rush Into Marriage?
I realize that the two of you have been dating for a long time
now. But why the rush for marriage? If the two of you have a great
relationship why change it now? Why not wait until both of you have
settled in your life? Like until you find a great job after graduation.
He Isn't Ready
I think your boyfriend is avoiding the subject because he isn't
ready. If he was, he would have asked by now.
Don't you think you would want to marry a man that is ready and
that isn't being "persuaded"? (I only use that term because
he hasn't mentioned it yet).
You know that he is the one, but he doesn't. And he does have the
right to know for sure if you're the one also.
At least he's being honest. I would hate for the two of you to
rush into marriage and have to get divorced because you realize
that you are not compatible.
Find Out What He's Thinking
What I suggest is to just have the conversation. Tell him straight
off the bat that he can't avoid it anymore, it has to be discussed.
Tell him simply that you want to know if this situation is leading
to something more, or not.
You Deserve To Know If He'll Propose
If he isn't on the same path as you, you deserve to know now, so
that you don't waste the rest of your life waiting for someone that
may never propose.
Unfortunately for most guys that avoid marriage, an ultimatum is
the only way to find out.
If it turns out that he does not want to get married, let him go.
Don't waste your time.
Eventually he may come to his senses, but than he has to figure
that on his own.
Hope I've Helped,
– Mel
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