Dear Confused,

Only Mike Really Knows What's Going On

When dealing in matters of the heart, never rely on what you've heard from others. In this case, listening to what your friends are saying isn't the
best scenario.

Sure, they might have heard some of this, but the one person who can truly tell you what is going down is Mike.

One way or another, you need to find out for certain.

First Talk To Lisa

Good idea. A real friend wouldn't expect her to be silent through this.

Maybe you can talk to Lisa, and work out a way where you can bring the subject up with Mike, without causing anyone any harm.

If not, then you need to decide how important your relationship with Mike is. Is it important enough to risk breaking your promise to find out what's really going on?

Talk To Mike About His Future Plans

You definitely need to bring up long-term commitments with Mike. Find out how he feels about remaining committed to the relationship.

Wrong. She shouldn't hint around. She should find out the truth from Mike!

Ultimately, your best course of action in this matter is to gently probe into the situation, hinting at long term commitments, asking him about any future plans he has for himself, like a 5-year plan, and so on.

You also need to question yourself, too. Is he someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? If he's not, then you needn't worry about things breaking off.

Best of luck,

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