Dear Jealous,

To me, a semi-jealous person, I think you might be overreacting, but I can
understand some of what you are feeling.

Let Her Know The Limits

Or he could find someone who dosn't bring out jealousy in him.

It sounds like you might need to really discuss the issue of jealousy with your girl. Perhaps you two can come to an understanding that does not limit either of your love or inhibit seemingly innocent actions.

For example, no matter who you are or how in love you may be, every single soul on this planet looks at the opposite and/or same sex. We are visual, physical creatures who have relied on these senses for centuries.

However, in a committed physical and mental relationship we have a dual respect for the significant other, and limit our actions to our eyes. If her dances, looks and gestures hurt you, don't be shy about it, tell her how you feel, but don't overreact either.

Give Her Some Space

I agree. He should just let her go out with the girls.

Give her space to breathe. Let her express who she is and to have fun.

If she is going to be your wife, you have to trust her. Subtle jealousy is fine and dandy, but serious pure jealousy is not any part of a trusting relationship.

If you think you are overreacting, chances are, you are. The most important thing I can think to say is that you must recognize your feelings and self measure them. Be disciplined and know when you are overreacting.

You are both very young and have many experiences to draw from that will eventually bring you closer as a couple or push you apart.

Focus On How She Acts With You

Yep. Drinking has always been an issue for me.

Alcohol has been the fuel for many faults in relationships and people in general.

If she is loosening up and having a good time, let her. Be more aware of her actions toward you when she is drunk than her actions toward
other individuals.

For example, she danced closely with this male from her class, but how did she interact with you. She left with you, right? Measure these things, weigh and balance actions and words and know yourself. Judge your jealousy by comparing it to the total events in your relationship and try not to focus on solitary actions.

Hope this helps in some way. Good luck to you.

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