Dear Panel,

I am married, with two children, ages 11 & 15 years. I am 34, this is my second marriage. I'm a full time worker. I have just returned to the UK after living in the US for three years and I know that my heart and home is back in Northern Virginia.

I Fell In Love With A Married American

I am so homesick all I do is cry. I did meet someone and I "know" that he is the one I want to spend my life with. His name is Jonathan. He is married, sadly.

He Doesn't Have Kids

It is a strange situation. He owns his own company and has been married for 13 years and thus is aware of the financial implications of a split. He is everything I have every wanted and could want in a man. He is 34 like me but has no children.

My Husband Is Too Quiet

My current husband Casey is 33 and this is his first and only marriage. He is a good man. Loving, kind, attractive and most women would die for a man like this. But he is just too quiet for me. He will be working away while I am in England which makes it even harder.

I've Slept With Him Once

I met Jonathan nearly two years ago online. We met, had coffee and just clicked. Yes I know it sounds like a cliche but we finish each others sentences! We have met several times over the last two years however we have only had sex once. (I won't bore you with the details.) But we talk constantly. While I was in the US we would talk on the phone and now we talk via the 'net or email.

I Want To Leave My Marriage

I want to return not just to home but to what I consider "home". I know I won't be happy until I know I am back in America and where I can see him. I am not asking him to leave his wife. I would never ask that. But I just know that we are meant to be. (However I am scared I have idealised the whole scenario!)

My husband doesn't know how I feel about this man but is aware of my great desire to return to America and I know it is hurting him but he says that all he wants is my happiness.

As for Jonathan he just wants to see me. It will mean uprooting my son but I know he will have a better life in America than here in England. I am prepared to work at whatever it takes to make this my happen.

What should I do?

Female, age 34, England

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