Dear Georgia,

Sweetheart, here's a net now go and catch a clue. Better yet let me give
you one.

Remember Your Wedding Vows?

Marriage is a contractually binding agreement, one that you entered into willingly and one in which you made long-term promises to "love, honor and obey"....(got your pen and paper because you need to write this down) "AND FORSAKING ALL OTHERS".

It's not, nor has it ever been an option to just arbitrarily abandon your current husband "because he is too quiet for me". Do you abandon your kids when they are too loud?

You're Selfish

I strongly agree with your moral prospective.

Did you ever consider how profoundly infidelity impacts a child? Not to mention what it does to the fiber of the family. Have you thought about anyone but your self? Have you thought about how HIS wife would feel?

What if you were in her shoes and some on-line whore was trying to take your man? You'd be crushed and you are a liar if you say different.

Even if you think your husband and children don't know about your nasty little affair, rest assured they WILL find out if this continues. When they do and your world crumbles I will bet my bank account that Mr.Adulterer Jonathan will be NOWHERE to be found. That is REALITY.

Extract yourself from this situation immediately, pick up the pieces of your poor broken heart and read on...

Here's an equation for living given to me by a nun in high school, anytime I
have ever come to a mental crossroads and didn't know how to proceed I think of this and it really puts things into perspective.

Intellect Over Emotion

Intellect over Emotion, so simple. Now ask yourself, is my intellect in charge here or are my emotions?

You said: "I am married, two children, aged 11 & 15 years I am 34, second marriage. Full time worker. I have just returned to the UK after living in the US for three years and I know that my heart and home is back in No VA. I am so homesick all I do is cry. I did meet someone and I "know" that he is the one I want to spend my life with."

You know your heart and home is here in the US after a 3 year stint? Conveniently in conjunction with this realization you have met someone here.

Are you emotionally drawn to the US because you love the country, the people and it's doctrines or because you met some schmuck on-line? My guess is you are clouding your intellectual decisions with too many emotions (and hormones).

Being A Single Mom Isn't Easy

Put the emotions away for a moment and try to imagine what things would REALLY be like of you relocated and said adulterer was not in the picture. Would you consider moving if you never met this guy? It's not easy being a single mom in the US, I know I am one (you would be one also if you moved).

It's expensive and competitive here, often times cold, hard and plastic. It's lonely to move from your homeland and the familiarity. Do you have the financial means to support yourself? Do you have people here in the US?

How do you think your kids would feel being uprooted from friends, their pop,
their school? And where on Earth did you come up with the idea that your son would have a better life here? An absurd number of kids in the US live in
poverty. Just because you leave the UK for the US does not entitle you or
your kids to a walk down the yellow brick road. Your aren't fixing the
problems, you are just relocating them.

End It With Jonathan

Take off the rose colored glasses, end this relationship with Jonathan pronto, and hope like hell that your kids and husband haven't already figured it out.

Go Back To Your Husband

Well, she should at least TRY to sort out her maraige before moving on to someone else.

Go back to Casey, the UK and your family, it's perfectly clear to me THAT is where your home and heart is. When you said "I do" to Casey you made a promise for life, now be a woman of honor and integrity and stick to it.

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