Dear Inexperienced,

Unfortunately, there is no absolute answer for what you need to do- aside from taking some time to do some serious soul searching.

There Is No Right Or Wrong Answer

Unfortunately,as you will learn, there are often no cut and dry answers in relationship matters, but rather foggy areas that you just have to work through.

It sounds like you and your girlfriend are on different levels. While she may be content as is, you seem to want something deeper. Your journey through therapy is one step toward healing- you didn't mention if your girlfriend has ever come with you or not.

A Couple's Counselor Could Help

Couples therapy might help her in getting over the sexual abuse she recede prior to your getting together. It might also help you in terms of intimacy; while couples of different situations have varying levels of intimacy (i.e. how often they have sex), intimacy IS part of a healthy romantic relationship, on some level.

Find Out What She's Looking For

Enough words. They have to become emotianlly intimate.

You could start by sitting your girlfriend down and finding out what she's looking for in terms of your relationship, and gauging her current views on your sexual situation.

Move On If She Won't Work With You

If she refuses to listen to your concerns,or bypasses them as being insignificant, you might need to move on.

Best of luck!

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