Dear Mae,

This sounds like a VERY bad situation, and I am sorry to hear that you have to deal with it.

He Needs Counseling

I think that Jim has some serious issues that he needs to see a counselor about. He sounds as though he has a very needy and attached personality. He has made his happiness reliant on someone else, and that is a very bad thing.

At the beginning of your explaination, it just sounds like he is a lonely guy and he has built up a relationship with you so much that he feels he has to have it. But as I read it further, it became quite distressing.

When he talks about when and the names of the children that he wants to have with you, that is a little too serious, and he sounds like he needs serious counseling.

Talk To Katie About Him

OK, but she should also tell her parents about this.

Have you talked to your friend Katie about the situation? You said she was still friends with Jim, maybe she can find out what is going on or talk to him about it and ask him to back off.

Try Talking To Him

If this doesn't work, I would try talking to him. Maybe just explain to him that you do not feel the same way and that you are somewhat bothered by his e-mails and other actions.

No, she should threaten to call the police on him.

Don't threaten to call the police on him while you are talking to him, it may make the situation worse.

If nothing else works, I would then contact the authorities. Maybe they can issue a restraining order or at least do something to help out your situation and help him.

Mae, I hope everything works out for you. Be careful in whatever you do. Take care.

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