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Hi Mae,
This could be nothing or could be something very serious. This
may be his way of showing you that he cares a lot for you, but from
the looks of it, it's bordering on stalking and harrassment. I know,
it's not something you want to think about, but sometimes these
things are allowed to get out of control aren't properly dealt with
until something serious happens.
Tell Your Parents
What I would suggest that you do is let people know what is going
on. Like your parents, teachers, friends ... anyone. Just so that
they can also keep on eye on his activities and look for signs that
it may be a little more than an infatuation.
If You're Comfortable, Talk To Him
If he's at all approachable and you are willing to do that, talk
to him. Tell him point-blank that you are not interested in him.
If he does not take "no" for an answer or if he continues
to harrass you with emails, letters, phone calls or whatever, tell
him that you are going to report him.
If He Keeps It Up, Call The Police
If that doesn't work, then the police should be called. I would
also make a pact with my friends that if he asks about you, the
subject is "off-the-table". Taboo. If he can manipulate
your friends into telling him about you, what you're doing or where
you are, they are only hurting you, not helping you. If they are
your friends ... get them working with you on this. And, tell them
for godsakes to stop helping him to harrass you by giving him access
to their email programs.
Be firm and let them know exactly how you feel about the whole
situation. If his actions begin to get really out there or begin
to scare you, then by all means let the police know about it. Stalking
and harrassment are serious and even though they might not be able
to immediately do anything about it, they will at least be made
aware that a potential situation is out there.
Start Saving His Messages
In the meantime, too, it would be a good idea to make a file on
your computer and start saving some of these emails. I know you
want to just delete them and forget they came, but if need be, someone
in authority can trace them to him and help you get them to stop.
I hope, for your sake, that it is just a case of unrequited love
or teenage angst or whatever you guys refer to it and not anything
serious. But, it never hurts to be proactive rather than reactive
in a situation like this.
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