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Dear Jen,
I always get concerned when I hear about kids your age talking
about marriage. There may have once been a time when 17 would be
considered a good age to be married, but that time has long since
passed.
I think it's a good thing you have realized that now is not the
time for you to be engaged. As I know I've told other readers before,
a person at 17 still has a lot of growing, changing, and self-discovery
to do.
You'll Grow And Change In The Future
Once you're done with your travels, perhaps you'll go to college,
too. When you've been through all that, just five short years from
now, you'll be amazed at what a different person you've grown to
be.
At that point, maybe you two will still be the right people for
each other, maybe you won't. But you're absolutely right not to
want to rush into an engagement.
It seems that Kevin is scared that he is going to lose you when
the two of you are apart for so long. I'm glad for the both of you
that you love each other so much.
Go Experience Life
Here is what I would suggest for both of you (and what I suggest
you tell Kevin). Go, travel, see, discover, experience, do, learn,
and grow. Embrace the fact that you both are going to change as
people always do.
If, after taking the time to learn who you really are, you still
find that you are the right one for him (and he for you), then you'll
know that it's the right time for you two to get married. If, on
the other hand, you discover that you've grown apart more than together,
you won't be committed to a marriage that wasn't right in the first
place.
Best of luck,
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