| Dear Jen,
Firstly, good luck on a long distance relationship. I really mean
that. If you want it badly enough it will happen. But you both must
be prepared to deal with all of this. It sounds as if your boyfriend
either is very scared at being alone for so long, or for whatever
reason doesn't have complete trust in you. This is something you
MUST discuss.
Be Honest with Him
Trust and honesty are the most important aspects of any relationship.
Especially one that will be long distance. If you are planning to
spend the rest of your life with this man, you need to be honest
and up front with him about how you are feeling.
Otherwise neither of you should be in a position to get engaged.
As you are not ready for the commitment that it will entail. If
you can't be honest with him about how you feel before you get married
how will you expect to be afterwards. Just be up front with him,
if you explain, I'm sure he'll eventually understand.
I have a very close friend who is in the middle of a long distance
relationship with his girlfriend. And let me tell you, temptation
is around every corner. He is not only nervous about you cheating.
Somewhere deep down he's worried about himself. He feels that if
he has that important attachment of engagement, it will be enough
for him (as well as you) to remain faithful. Do not get engaged
if you even doubt for a second yours or your partners loyalty. It
will only lead to problems later on.
Tell Him What Kind Of Proposal You Want
After all is said and done, since you apparently love him, talk
to him. Don't hold back. You want something sweet and romantic,
tell him so, or even to start a conversation by mentioning how you
always thought your proposal would sound like when you were a child.
I guarantee it will make it easier to discuss the subject.
A long distance relationship is hard, I wont lie to you. But I
wish you both the best of luck.
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