| Dear Flirting,
Unfortunately your problem is not easily solved. It's hard sometimes
to tell the difference between flirting and just being friendly.
That's why a lot of people are constantly on guard afraid they are
going to misinterpret someone's signals.
The good news is, you're not alone. Many people have this same
problem. Girls hate them because they get all the guys, guys love
them, and the actual person herself isn't trying to make any of
this happen on her own, it's just happening.
In a lot of ways you should consider yourself lucky! Those girls
that have crushes on those boys would probably kill to have that
kind of attractiveness just glowing from them.
But I do understand your other problem. You don't actually WANT
the guys to have crushes on you. That's where it gets tricky.
You Could Be Sending Flirty Signals
You could be just flashing them a friendly smile or resting your
arm on their shoulder but to them (and those other girls who
are giving you the death stare) you are like totally flirting with
them (valley girl impersonation intended).
Keep It Friendly
You should always be yourself, which I'm not doubting you are.
Just try not to lead them on. There's nothing wrong with laughing
with them and smiling and giving them friendly touches here and
there, just try to keep everything on a friendly level.
Tell Them You're Not Interested
If all else fails you might have to talk to them. The situation
might really get sticky over time where those guys are totally into
you and you can't do anything to change it. Sometimes that happens.
You just need to spell it out to them that you aren't interested
and if they have any sense at all they will be okay with it and
go back to just hanging out.
Like I said before, just be yourself and everything will be coming
up roses.
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