| Dear Flirting,
What's the Problem Here?
Honestly I can't see the problem here. There is nothing wrong with
being yourself, provided that you are not hurting anyone else. Don't
let anyone, even friends, make you feel like you have to compromise
yourself to make them happy. You'll only be making yourself miserable
in the process.
You've Got Charisma
Some folks have charisma. People naturally gravitate towards them
and that's just how it is. Maybe you are one of these people. I
wish you could have gone into your supposed flirting in more detail.
There are many different types of flirting, and often, people can
confuse a friendly nature with flirtation. It could be that you
are worried about nothing here. Maybe you are just a friendly person?
If so there is really nothing to worry about.
However, if you are all over these guys in an overtly coy manner,
there could be some problems with your friends. Not to mention problems
with you if you are deliberately misleading these guys into thinking
that they have a shot with you. It's not right to string people
along even if it makes you feel good.
Just remember that in the end, the person on the other end of the
string will feel terrible. But if you have made your intentions
clear, this is a moot point.
Not that there is any harm in a little good-natured flirtation.
If you are confident in yourself, why not let it show? Some people
just have a much harder time approaching someone they are interested
in than others. You can't take responsibility for the way others
are. You can only take responsibility for yourself.
They're Just Teasing You
Have you actually talked to your friends to see how they feel about
this? Maybe they are only teasing you by pointing out your flirting.
It is possible that you have taken this remark way out of context.
You're Making Too Big A Deal Out Of This
It is also possible that you are making too big a deal out of this.
I don't know where you get that flirtation equals whoredom. That
just isn't true. If some of those guys end up liking you, so be
it.
By the way, just because you have a crush on someone doesn't make
them your property. If they don't feel the same way about you, if
a relationship has not been instigated, then they are free. Just
something for you and your friends to keep in mind.
Go ahead and be fun and friendly. You are only young once, after
all. Enjoy yourself.
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