Dear Panel,
I got together with my ex in late January.
We didn't sleep together, but we messed around, and
a week later, he broke up with me and told me that it
was because of our age difference.
I Agreed To A Purely Physical Relationship
After he broke up with me, he told me
that he wanted to know if we could continue with a "physical"
relationship. I really liked him and hoped that we would
eventually get back together, so I agreed.
About a month and a half later, I felt
myself falling in love with him and ended up losing
my virginity to him. We continued sleeping together
until late June, but as it continued I started to realize
that I wasn't being treated fairly, and he didn't want
to be with me.
I Ended It
So when he called me and asked me for
a favor, I told him to do me a favor and forget my f------
number. He asked me why I was so upset and I told him
that he didn't care about me.
He Wanted To Stay Friends
He then asked if we could continue being
friends without the sex. The next day, some of my friends
and one of his guy friends were on the phone discussing
the situation. I asked to speak to him alone, but he
wouldn't and got an attitude.
He Called Me A Slut
To make a long story short, he told me
that I was a slut because after he asked me to be his
girlfriend we messed around the next day, and even after
we broke up, I continued sleeping with him. He then
he went on and said that he didn't even really believe
that I was a virgin becasue if I had been, I wouldn't
have given it up to him so easily while we weren't "together'.
I know that I lost my virginity to him,
and I know that I'm not a slut, but it really hurts
that he would say something like that to me.
I wanted to know your thoughts on the
situation and I wanted to know if you thought that he
called me a slut because he really felt that way, or
because he was trying to show off in front of his friend
because I was the one that tried to end it.
I don't know what to do because sometimes
I find myself feeling guilty because I wonder what could
have happened if I stayed around longer. Maybe he wouldn't
hate me today.
Female, age 15, New York
Brian,
Foxy,
and Jody
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