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Dear Big Brother,
Ask Girls Out
Ask some girls out. I know, it's simple, but seriously--have you
tried it?
Ask Out A Friend
Friendships are a wonderful place to start. I firmly believe that
without a solid friendship, two people can never achieve true intimacy
in a relationship. Have you tried to suggest more with your girlfriends?
If you're constantly met with refusal, you might want to ask them
what it is they look for in a partner, and whether you don't meet
those criteria or if they're just not physically attracted to you.
If you see a pattern in their responses such as "I like you,
but it seems that you have some personal issues that you should
work out" or "You're a complete asshole, and I only hang
out with you to be polite" then think about what you can do
to make yourself a better person. Not a different person, but a
more available one.
If they all say you're great but they just don't feel "that
way" about you, it's trial and error from here.
Dating Can Ruin Friendship
Of course there are risks involved in asking your friends out.
If you truly want to pursue a relationship, be willing to face the
music if a rejection results in the friendship turning awkward or
sour. In your closest friendships, carefully weigh the pros and
cons of asking out a good pal.
Does it sadden you to pine in the shadows so much that you can't
enjoy the friendship? Is this girl the woman of your dreams? Maybe
it's worth risking rejection to try. Is she someone you can't necessarily
see a future with? Is she already in a relationship? Don't ask her
out.
What it comes down to is that it often takes a lot of effort to
get into a relationship. I can't just give you a magical recipie
for getting women to respond to you.
With your newest acquaintances, if you're interested in them in
"that way", don't be afraid to be a little flirty and
suggestive if you think you may have a chance, before you have a
chance to become only the big brother.
Good luck,
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