Dear Panel,

Here is the problem. I have been going out with a girl for over 3 months now. We have a very serious relationship together. We've met each others parents, we talk on the phone at least twice a day, we see each other constantly, and we are in love.

She Stares At Other Guys

Lately I have been experiencing some hardships though. I've caught her staring at other guys. For example, we might be talking outside and her eyes will just wander and she will start staring at some other guy.

When confronted about it she simply says that she is daydreaming.

She Has A Guy Friend In Italy

Another problem I am faced with will be coming up soon. She goes to Italy every August to visit her family there and there is this older teenager there also. This person bought her a necklace and they had a "thing" together in the past.

Though she jokes around about it all the time saying "I can't wait to see me boyfriend in Italy!", I sense there is some truth in it.

Her Friends Say She Loves Me

Her and her friends are always telling me how much she loves me and cares for me and that she would never even think about cheating on me. As much as I would like to believe it, it's hard. Just recently her ex-boyfriend who treated her like dirt invited her to the beach. She considered going also. There is so much that I have gone through with her, too much to write.

Though 95% of me trusts her completely, I still have that 5% that isn't sure. I don't want to seem controlling and I would never want to change who she is, I just want to know how I can change these feelings I am having. I really don't know what to do, I care for her so much.

Please help me. I don't want to lose her.

Male, age 13

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