Dear Pharaoh,

Sounds like your relationship has some trust issues to me, but your feelings of doubt are completely normal considering you are young and you've only been going out for 3 months.

Her constant staring at guys does not necessarily mean that she's interested in the other guys, but it could be a sign that she's not as serious about the relationship as you are.

She's Not Over Her Ex

Maybe she's still not over her last boyfriend that you said treated her like dirt, and she's not willing to trust a guy 100% yet. If she tells you she's ready, it may be that she isn't willing to lie to you in fear of hurting you.

I disagree. She just wants to be friends with her ex.

By her considering to go hang out with her ex boyfriend, it shows that she isn't completely over him, which is normal. It took me nearly a year to get over my last boyfriend who emotionally abused me.

Maybe you should back off on trying to make your relationship 100% perfect and give her some breathing room to get over the last jerk. I know you said you guys are close, but these are just some things to think about.

Tell Her The Jokes Bother You

He shouldn't admit to the fear. He should just tell her that he trusts her.

Have you tried talking to her about her constant staring and joking about her old flame in Italy? Maybe she isn't aware that her behavior is hurting you. Trust is the absolute most important thing in a relationship, remember that. Try to talk to her, it can only help.

If, in the end, things don't work out..then it will be better in the long run. It sounds like you care about her a lot and from some people's point of view I am guessing that everyone thinks she's going to break your heart. I don't know if this is true, since I'm only hearing your side of it, but my guess is you guys just need to have a long talk.

TRUST IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN A RELATIONSHIP. It sounds like you two need to establish that a little more.

Good luck.

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