Dear Skittle,

Try to take and solve one problem at a time.

You're Having Trouble Adjusting To Living Together

It appears that your first problem is your relationship of two years and your living arrangements. If you have had a good relationship for the past 2 years it could very well be that you are both having difficulty adjusting to the new living arrangements. Married or not moving in together is always and adjustment for everyone.

However, it will never work if you continue to be unfaithful and dishonest with him. Communication is one of the most essential ingredients for a successful relationship.

Try To Work It Out With your Boyfriend

But she IS sure. She should move out.

Talk out your problems and work toward an amicable living arrangement. Are you sure after two years of this relationship and only three weeks of discourse you are ready to throw in the towel? Or are you being influenced by someone else who has his own selfish motives?

As far as the new love...anyway you look at it he has his own set of commitments and problems. Let him solve his own problems and you yours before entering a new relationship that seems to me is taken off on a whim due to both of you having problems of your own.

Work Out Your Problems At Home First

ALL new relationships are exciting, fun, and usually worry-free but ALL new things come to an end. Work out your problems at home first.

I agree. She has to learn that relationships require work.

Whatever the solution may be, you need to learn to solve problems when they arise not run from them which will in the end cause additional complications and hard feelings.

Take a month off from the new relationship. See if it is still as important to you several weeks from now. If nothing else, you will be a stronger person with improved communication skills, and you will feel better about yourself. You must be happy with yourself before you can make anyone else happy.

Good Luck,

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