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Dear Johnny,
This just isn't one of those little disagreements or arguments
that you can talk out and come to a compromise on. She's made her
decision, and you need to let her go.
She's not committed to you, despite how you may feel about her.
I'm not telling you that she doesn't love you, only she knows that
for certain, of course.
She's A Normal Teenager
But she's trying to tell you through her actions that your relationship
is not a priority in her life right now.
This is a perfectly normal thing for a teenager, and a good thing.
She needs time to adjust to the huge changes that are about to confront
her and figure out if she still wants the same things out of life.
A person at 30 or even 25 is often a completely different person
than he or she was at 18. Chances are, you might not even like the
person she becomes. Of course, in 4 years she may be the same, wonderful
girl that she is now. If she is, she may very well decide that you're
still the only one for her.
She'll End Up Resenting You
Bottom line: She doesn't want an exclusive relationship while she's
away at college. If you do manage to successfully persuade her to
stay in one, she'll resent you for it and feel suffocated the whole
time she's away. And what kind of relationship is that?
It's really true what they say...if you love something, set it
free.
Good luck,
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