Dear GodBless,

You are 14-years-old, and yours is an age where a struggle begins: a struggle to figure out who you are, but also a struggle to figure out how the person you are becoming will fit into the world. It's a tough but enlightening learning process, fraught with fears and doubts like the ones you air.

You have figured out that missionary work is something which you want to do in the future, but from what I gather, you're worried that this will make finding a husband difficult, due to the sacrifices you're willing to make in order to realize that dream.

I think your fears are misplaced, however. Will being a missionary make it impossible to find a husband? I'd think not. I think it's interesting that you claim that "material things do not matter" to you, yet all of your concerns are about money.

You'll Gravitate Toward Other Christians

What you need to realize is that choosing to be an ultra-devout Christian will make you more likely to gravitate towards other ultra-devout Christians, and if they believe what they claim, chances are money won't make a bit of difference to them.

Who knows? You may even find a man who wants to embark on missionary work, too. That would be a partnership based upon a common goal. The simple fact is that we make choices to shape our own lives, to form our own identities, and no matter what you choose to do with your life, chances are there will be others who will share in your interests, and that can be a foundation for love and marriage.

Mission Work Is Demanding

Missionary work, like medicine, is a career which follows you home. It's not a simple 9-to-5 job. You will be a missionary 24 hours a day. These kind of all consuming careers demand a partner who is willing to accept this.

As long as she is living God's will, he WILL provide her with a partner.

Rest assured, there are people out there who will accept you, and love you for who you are and who you've chosen to become.

Continue To Find Your Identity

Right. She should get out there and see what mission work is all about.

As you said, though, you're still young, and things may change. Continue to find your identity, choose who you want to become, and the rest will follow. Besides, 14 is a little young to be worrying about marriage just yet.

Good luck,

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