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Dear M,
You seem to have quite a situation on your hands! It's probably
not the best scenario that you met her in a chat room... but sometimes
that's just how people meet.
I think it was good that you started out as friends first, and
had the love interest sneak up on you later. My answer to this question
would have been completely different if you had started some sort
of internet love relationship immediately.
It's great that you have looked at the facts harshly. I used to
date older guys where the ratio was usually age 15 to 17/18, and
can understand the criticism that follows such a ratio. Your decision
about waiting for sex is a good and important one, and no matter
what happens you should continue to talk openly with your girlfriend
about the unpleasant facts that come with your age difference.
Find Out How Her Parents Feel
Something you didn't mention in your letter which I think should
be taken into consideration - her parents. How do they feel about
this situation? They do know about this situation right? Unpleasant
as it may be to hear, your girlfriend is a minor and you are an
adult. So you've got to take the wishes and considerations of her
parents/guardians into consideration.
 True
Love Can Always Wait
True love can always wait. If what you have is real, I believe
you can make it.
But always remember that your girlfriend is a child. By dating
you, is she still having a chance to do all the things in her young
teenage years that you got to experience? Just make sure you're
not robbing her of anything she may regret not having done later
in life.
Continue to talk about your decisions with her/her parents and
I think it could work out, despite the age ratio.
Good luck, let us know what happens.
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