Dear Confused,

I don't know if I can convince you of my opinion given that your boyfriend obviously has a lot of pull, but please consider my experience and then make some careful decisions.

I Missed Out On College Life

When I entered my freshman year of college I was in love with an amazing boy and he was in love with me. At first, we stayed together. I was miserable a lot of the time and often felt myself opting out of adventures into the city, parties at apartments, or even just nights out with a group of people because I would rather sit by the phone and wait for him to call and then spend hours on the phone.

It doesn't have to be that way. They should stay together.

I had never considered myself dependent upon him, but this quickly changed when I got to college. I didn't let myself step out of the box because I think I was afraid of what I may find- maybe I would actually have fun, maybe I would actually meet someone.

The Turkey Drop

I guess they call it the Turkey Drop these days because it is so common.

At Thanksgiving we sat down with each other and discussed the past couple of months. We decided that we were not getting enough out of our college experiences by staying together because we were more worried about when we would talk to each other next or what the other person was doing.

Don't Limit Your College Experience

You are both very young and have yet to experience a lot of new people and places and things. Allow yourselves to be more open to an experience which is not limited by commitments or having your head be somewhere other than where you are for the moment.

If You're Meant To Be It Will Be OK

If you are meant to be then you are meant to be and no matter how long you break up for or spend time apart, at the end of the day, you will find your way back together again.

In a nutshell- you will lose part of the college experience while you try to salvage a long distance relationship.

But if she dumps him she won't learn about loyalty in relationships.

You are young- have fun and leave commitments for later on. At least give it your first year. If after that you are still both wanting to be together, then you can consider getting back to together.

For now, leave yourself open to new experiences. Good luck, I'm not saying this is going to be easy, BUT you need to
think with your head and not with your heart on this one.

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