Oooooh, we've got a pronoun problem here!

You see, he's not driving you crazy, you're driving yourself crazy fantasizing about that unattainable guy.

The only problem is in your head. Do something to fixate on someone else, who's not attached.

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Dear Panel,

I am married and love my husband very much. I actually couldn't imagine my life without him.

However, I find myself attracted to other men all the time. I even fantasize about them on a regular basis.

Is this normal?

Should I be feeling such strong sexual desires for other men if I love my husband so much?

- Frustrated

female, age 23, Southwest USA

Yes and yes. What was it that Jimmy Carter said about "lusting in his mind"?

Sure!

Just think about all the women your man wants to bang on a regular basis.

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Dear Panel,

I am a 19 year old girl studying in another country for this year.

He is a 23 year old guy I met when I first got here.

We met when I first came to this country. I had a boyfriend (but no longer do), and I didn't know about his past. We got along together instantly, and have spent every weekend together for the past 4 months. He tells me he loves me, but he has issues with the fact that I believe in God and that we will be so far apart soon.

The biggest issue, however, is that he is still in love with this other girl from his past. He tells me he will never be able to love anyone else. We get along perfectly and are best friends, as well as lovers.

Everything would be great if either he forgot about this other girl, or if he fell in love with me. I just don't know what to do.

Should I stay in this relationship?

– Confused

female, age 19, UK

He says he'll never love anyone else. Believe him

NO. Unless you like a very long distance relationship and a lot of pain.

Sure. Enjoy the rest of your year with him, knowing that it'll end when you leave the country.

This is one of those rare times when you can just enjoy where you're at, because there is no future for the two of you. Enjoy!!

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Dear Panel,

I have a boyfriend where I live, but I'm so in love with this guy I met in California and I can never see him and I miss him so much I always think about him and whenever I'm with my boyfriend I always think about him.

I do like my boyfriend, but he doesn't compare to the guy I'm in love with. What should I do?

Female, age 16, Canada

It is easy to love somebody you barely know.

Imagine him picking his nose, farting, kissing another girl. 

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Dear Panel,

I just met this cool guy, I really like him because he is really fun to talk to and stuff but sometimes I get nerves when talking to him and I don't know what to say and sometimes I say something really stupid.

Is this, like normal?

- Ginger

Female, Age 20, Maine

Most people wish they had a nickel for every dumb thing they've said.

Or written, in my case.

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Dear Panel,

I've known a boy for 1 year, and I'm so in love with him. But one of my friends is in love with him too!

Tell me how can I attract him more? What shall I do?

Female, age 16, Iran

Give "it" up.

Oops, did I just say that out loud?

Actually, he will decide who he wants, not you.

Treat him like a friend instead of a prize in a competition.

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Dear Panel,

I have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and in March it will be a year.

But I am a virgin and he is not and I also know that he really loves me to stay with me this long and he is not getting any.

But I promised I would give it up in March on my birthday.

Was I right??

- Virgin

Female, age 17, USA

You were only right if that's really what you want to do.

This is not a contract; don't do it if you don't want to.

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Dear Panel,

If you really like this guy and you want to be with him more than anything in this world, and the only reason that you're not with him is because he want's to get to know you better.

But you want him now, not later, would you think that he is interested or would you think that he's just playing around and isn't really interested?

- Kim

Female, age 16, Texas

Your question is making me dizzy.

I think that you should slow down and let things occur naturally.

Personally, I'd think he's a lot more mature than you. It's generally far better to "be" with someone after you know each other.

Rule of thumb: if he wants to be with you at least 2 days a week, he's interested.

Otherwise, he already knows you well enough.

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Dear Panel,

My boyfriend says he loves me but he's always screaming at me and stuff.

What do I do?

- Amanda

Female, age 17, USA

The next time your boyfriend screams, put a sock in his mouth (preferably his own and one that is nice and "ripe").

If you don't like living with a screamer, who cares if he loves you?

Leave.

By the way, if the "and stuff" includes hitting or shoving, leave even faster.

Let him know that you only have one momma - and he ain't her!

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Dear Panel,

Can you give me some not too forward, creative ways to ask a guy out?

I don't want this one to get away!

- Kat

Female, age 22, Kentucky

Why ask him? Make him ask you.

Say to him, "So, are you ever gonna ask me out?"

If a girl talks to me, I find that to be just forward and creative enough.

If she mentions being free on the weekend, I'm there.

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Dear Panel,

I am always thinking about my boyfriend every minute of the day.

Am I in love?

It has been 3 months we been together...

I never been in love.

- Confuse

Female, age 19, USA

No, you are still in the honeymoon period of the relationship.

If you still feel the same way after another 3 months, then you are in love.

No.

You're in love when you can think about other people and still want to be with your boyfriend.

Love...obsession...love...obsession...love...obsession....

Dang, who can tell the difference?

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Sorry, that's the last question.