1 or 2 bad marriages and a lot of therapy.

Self-confident: you do not need anything in the way of validation or ego-boosters from the person you are with.

Arrogant, egocentric bore: validation and ego boosters are ALL you are looking for.

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Dear Panel,

In November, I met a guy at a singles event; we exchanged phone numbers and we have been out on five dates (which he initiated).

He has some feminine qualities, but that's fine with me. We have fun on our dates but at the end of the evening, I always have to initiate a kiss goodnight. On the third date, I invited him in for coffee, but he said that it was late (11:30 pm, Friday night) and he knew I needed to get up early the next day.

I'm not sure if he's just shy and taking it slow or that he may be gay and is just looking for a friendship.

- LAF

Female, age 34, USA

I am very impressed by this guy.

Is he going to get you to ask him for sex too?

It sounds to me like he's just shy and taking it slow

If he was gay, he probably wouldn't let you initiate a kiss.

Why not just ask him what his intentions are?

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Dear Panel,

Hi. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a month and he cheated on me once. Can I still trust that he won't do it again?

I mean, how am I supposed to know if he really loves me? He says he does, but how do I tell if he's lying to me like he did when he cheated on me?

Can you help me?

- Afraid to Lose

Female, age 15, Connecticut

He IS lying; no one is in love after dating for only a month, particularly when the month wasn't even a fully-committed one.

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Does he also tell you that the dress you think makes you look fat really makes you look like Cindy Crawford?

I doubt if he'll cheat on you more than once a month.

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Dear Panel,

Okay, I really like this one guy, but see he is 3 and 1/2 years older than me. I am really interested in him and we flirt all the time.

What do I do? I'm afraid that he doesn't want to go to the next level.

- A Confused Girl

Female, USA

Are you legal?

Ask him.

If he says no, find a guy who's only 2 1/2 years older.

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Dear Panel,

I am a nice person. I am mainly attracted to football players, (Chris is a football player), I know, weird! I have turned down about 6 guys in the past two years because I am waiting for the right one. I know I can sometimes be picky but I don't think you should just go out with someone for the heck of it.

Once upon a time I met Chris, the sweetest guy I know. Well I will start from the beginning. One day I was talking on the phone and Chris came over to my house. Well, imagine my surprise. You see I never thought Chris liked me at all. Anyways we talked for about any hour that day. It was so fun.

As time progressed I found out he had a girlfriend .(Don't worry, it was a month after our talk.) Well him and his girlfriend are still going out (very recent!!) but sometimes in class we flirt – he will gently poke me in my side and smile (of course I return it) and somtimes I feel him looking at me.

But the big news is Chris's best friend Is one of my friends and he told me Chris wanted to go out with me so bad (before Stephaine) he said Chris was always like "let's go see English" or "I want to call her".

Please believe my when I say Chris is not a player; he has only had about 4 girlfriends. I really like him and he always flirts with me.

Do you think Chris still likes me? Do you think I have a chance with him?

– English

Does he use protection when he pokes you in class?

Sure, you have a big chance with Chris.

But why limit yourself? He isn't. There are still some 20 odd players left on the team, aren't there?

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Dear Panel,

My girlfriend started dating me about two months ago. We had been friends for quite a while beforehand. She used to tell me everything and I knew her so well.

Once we started dating, that faded. I was replaced by a male friend of both hers and mine. Now she goes off with him, and makes sexual jokes about he and she together.

Should I be concerned?

-Just a Confused Guy

Male, age 18, USA

Concerned is the least of what you should be.

Not if you are an ostrich.

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Dear Panel,

Is my girlfriend the person that I will marry?

- Russ

Male, age 44, North America

What do I look like? A Ouija board??!!

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Dear Panel,

I am a young woman in my early twenties, currently single.
"Steve" is a divorced guy in his mid-forties, who works with me.

OK, here's the deal: I am not in a relationship with this man, but I am very attracted to him and totally adore him. I think he is very sexy, and lately I have been fantasizing about him a lot. He and I are good friends, and he flirts with me like crazy.

However, he also has a girlfriend, whom he lives with. You could say that I'm feeling a bit confused right now. I know he likes me and is attracted to me, I just don't know how much. Also, because of our age difference, I'm unsure of how far to let my feelings go.

Should I simply accept Steve as being my friend, and my friend only?

- L.M.

Female, Age 23, USA

Yep.

All you can be is friends until he's available like you are.

Depends on whether or not you care that he belongs to someone else.

If you do care, find someone your own age to play with.

Why not accept him for a cheating flirt instead?

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Dear Panel,

well i have had boyfriends in the past but after my last one, it is like now, no guys are interested in me.

i don;'t know what to do and i am very aggervated!
thanks alot

- Red Head

Female, Age 16, Louisiana

Did you chop the head off your last boyfriend and put it on your front fence?

Maybe you should find out what your last boyfriend is saying about you.

Maybe your previous boyfriends got tired of correcting your spelling all of the time.

Of course the only reason that the panelists APPEAR to have good spelling is that I EDIT EVERYTHING they write.

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Dear Panel,

I am 29 and my girlfriend is 23. We have been together for 4 years. We both love each other very much, but she is from the ME generation.

"It is all about ME."

I told her one night that if i didn't really want to do something but I knew it would make her happy, I would do it. I asked her if she would do the same and she said, “No. I am too selfish.”

That really bothers me. Am I wasting my time? Am I too sensitive for her? I am very sensitive, she is not. So that causes me to be not as sensitive.

i am a Libra, she is a Capricorn.

Can you help?

Most boyfriends use SEX as the big test.

You use HYPOTHETICALS.

You're wasting her time. Get over it.

Woah...you should have star mapped 4 years ago....

I am a Libra too, my ex, Jake, was a Capricorn. Generation has nothing to with it – the stars say it's not gonna work.

You don't really believe that stuff, do you?

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Dear Panel,

I am 14 jears old and i am in love for 2 years now with the same boy.

I feld in love with Marcel the first time i saw him. He is always nice for me and he always smiles at me when he sees me.

But i am afraid that he doesn't feel the same way about me. Please help me.

How do i know if he feels the same way about me?

- I Love Someone

Female, Age 14, Europa

He's a boy. He doesn't.

A simple note like this would suffice:

"If you like me: Check box 1

"If you think I'm lame: throw this note back in my face."

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Sorry, that's the last question.