Let me ask you -

when your car needs a tune-up or the ashtrays are full, do you turn it in and get a new one?

I'll bet you work harder on your car than you do on your marriage.

You haven't seemed to figure out that marriage takes work, and that you don't bolt just cuz someone else makes you feel better and presents no problems to you. Someone you're attracted to but not involved with/married to is ALWAYS going to seem better than your partner.

Of course things just seem to be perfect in your discussions with this woman - you don't have to really deal with her, live with her, resolve conflicts with her. I'll bet you left wife #1 because someone else looked beter, and wife #2 also.

Figure it out, bro: reality is harder than having a fantasy. Marriage and a relationship takes a ton of work to make it work. If you're working 14-16 hours a day, you don't have that much time to devote to your relationship to begin with. And with your attitude, it sure feels like you aren't interested in spending your free time trying to maintain or improve your relationship.

You're not just confused, you're clueless!

Everyone makes mistakes in life; the only sin is not learning from them. Enjoy your female friend(s), but if you want a relationship, work hard on the one you have.