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Dear Panel,
This is my 2nd marraige;
my husband and i are in our mid 40's. I was single for
8 years and met him at work.
Once we were married,
I noticed his habit of looking at other women, when
we're on the train and on vacation. He stares and they
know he's looking and it makes me feel cheap. When I
confront him, he denies it. I then noticed he's constantly
on the Internet with his secret email addresses.
I know that he loves
me and feels insecure about me, but why does he constantly
stare at other women?
- Questioning
Female, age 46, USA
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There's nothing that happens during the marriage ceremony
that magically eliminates curiousity. If he looked before,
he'll keep looking.
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Does he have cataracts?
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A better question to ask is, "Why did I marry this
loser?"
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He looks, not because he feels insecure
about you, but insecure about himself.
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Dear Panel,
I am 19, and a little
over 6 months pregnant...my live-in-boyfriend (father
of the child) confessed to me that he thinks our sex
life is boring – which is why he would rather just
fall asleep at night, instead of reciprocate my advances.
Is there a way to make
him feel more attracted to me during my "altered"
state? I feel ugly, what should I do?
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You could get married, but then he would think the sex
even more boring.
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You could always threaten to not have sex afterwards.
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Dear Panel,
Lately, when my boyfriend
and I kiss, he puts his hand up my bra. This makes me
feel very uncomfortable but I tell him it's OK.
How can I tell him it bothers
me?
- LeAnn
Female, age 15, Alabama
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Here's a thought. How about
"DON"T DO THAT, IT BOTHERS ME." |
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The trick is to say it to
him, not to Love & Learn. |
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Tell him that the kind of
WonderBra you're wearing has been known to snap fingers
off; you're just worried for his sake. |
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Move his hand away EVERYTIME
he does it!!! |
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Slap him.
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Dear Panel,
My boyfriend lives in New
York and I live in Maine. What should I do?
- Michy
Female, age 15, USA
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Phone, email, write, visit.
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Threaten to move to California
if he doesn't move to Maine. |
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Find someone in your own
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Dear Panel,
Me and my boyfiend have
been going out for 2 months and I really like him, but
sometimes I feel like I "like" his friends too.
I don't know who or what
I like any more.
Help.
- Cilla
Female, age 13, USA
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Like anyone and everyone you want to. Just don't get
married yet.
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Stop having one boyfriend
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Don't go there, your boy's friends are off limits.
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Dear Panel,
Okay, folks: big problem.
I'm adopted. My cousin
and I got together last night to visit all day for the
first time in about 6 years. Towards the evening something
great but not so great happened. We ended up making out
and falling big time for each other.
What do we do? There is
no blood relation and everything feels right, except we
share the same last name and our dads are brothers.....HELP!!!
- Confused & Crazy
Male, age 19, Central
USA
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If you're both over 18, go for it! Tell your parents,
and get ready for a possible freak-out, but don't let
that stop you.
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It feels wrong
to you, it feels wrong to me, it'll feel wrong to your dads.Take
some cold showers, but not together.
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What exactly do you need help with?
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Also see "Can
I date my future step-sister?"
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Dear Panel,
How do I talk dirty to
my husband?
- Sam
Female, age 35, California
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Same way you'd talk dirty to anyone. Just
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Put his used undies over your head and speak out of one
of the legs.
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Whisper to him lovingly that you really
think George Bush is a great president. |
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Very quietly.
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Dear Panel,
My parents are against
me marrying a man I'm so in love with. I cannot tear myself
away from him, and I don't want to break my parents' hearts,
either.
What should I do?
- Ann Chan
Female, age 25, China
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Elope.
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Threaten to move to California if everybody can't work
it out.
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Dear Panel,
WHAT DO YOU TRY NEXT WHEN
YOU REALIZE THAT EVERY THING THAT YOU BRING TO YOUR PARTNER
TO DISCUSS ENDS UP IN A SCREAMING MATCH AND HE HEARS NOTHING.
- Writer
Female, age 40, Ohio
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Try a new partner,
and try not to YELL in your emails either. |
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Try, "Bye".
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A closed door
with one of you on the other side. |
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Counseling and/or
a good set of earplugs.
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Dear Panel,
Is there way to get over being attracted
to what I cannot have and not attracted to what I can?
- Amy
Female, age 27, California
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Yes, but it's hard. It's called growing up!
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Dear Panel,
There is this boy named
Mike and he has a girlfriend, but he tells me that he
will dump her for me.
I like him a lot, but I
don't want him dumping his girlfriend for me. But then
again, I do.
He is waiting for me to
give the OK. What should I do or say?
- Nisha
Female, age 16, USA
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Are you sure that his girlfriend hasn't already dumped
him?
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How will you feel when the next girl gives him the OK
to dump YOU?
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Dear Panel,
I recently received an
e-mail from an ex-girlfriend that stated, "I want
to be in love with you so badly. I am afraid that my feelings
for you weren't or aren't real."
We haven't been in contact
for a month. This was part of a longer e-mail, but she
didn't elaborate further.
Should I interpret this
as an invitation to rekindle the relationship? Why else
would you say such a thing? I am so very confused.
- Travel Expert
Male, age 30, Texas
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She is confused too.
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Write back and ask "What
the hell does this mean?" |
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What part of "weren't"
or "aren't" don't you understand? |
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She is messing with your head. Forget about it.
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Dear Panel,
What should a person
(me, a guy, age 46, divorced no kids) who is looking
for "true romance" and a partner to build
a family with, actually be looking for in a mate???
- Hana
Male, age 46, California
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Someone you feel love,
trust, lust, and "best-friendship" with. |
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Vital signs. |
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Dear Panel,
Me and my boyfriend,
Josh have been going out for two years now, but
he recently moved away and now I find myself masturbating
almost every night – is this normal?
- Josh is Gone
Female, age 19,
USA
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Yes.
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