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Dear Panel,
Me and my boyfriend have
been together for only 2 months.
It's one of those relationships
where two months seems like forever! At first it was
goin' great! He has lots of "female" friends
and I was alright with it cuz it was all innocent and
I'm the same way with my guy friends, nothin' to worry
'bout
But then he'd start to
just leave me standing there when we were at dances
to go hug his other girl friends, and he'd do stuff
like that now and then and it'd really make me mad!
Sometimes when when I'm tryin' to talk a real coversation
with him, he just acts like a smart ass and seems like
he has no interest in what I say. When I told him what
I thought he said, he had no idea that he did that and
apologized!
But it just seems like
our relationship is goin' nowhere! There's no tingles!
But there's something about him that I'm really attached
to and I don't want to lose him!
Any suggestions on what
to do to save this relationship, or should I even try
to save it?
- Getting Nowhere
Female, age 16, USA
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There can't be
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No tingles, move on!
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Let's see... he's an insensitive jerk who is trying to
make you jealous. You can't talk to him. There's nothing
worth saving. Next!
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Dear Panel,
I am .. 5'10.
if she grabs my hand
and holds it does that mean she likes me?
Male
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Depends. Are you walking over rocks or something slippery,
or near a cliff? If not, she likes you.
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Does she break any fingers?
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You're 5' 10.
I dont know why that matters, but I'll just say "Yes"
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Most times, yes.
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Dear Panel,
I am desperately in trouble!
How do i know if i lost
my virginity?
Can u recomend any web
sites that can help me?
- In Doubt
Female, age 18, USA
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You don't need any web sites.
You lost it. |
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You may also want to check
the answers to: Am
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Dear Panel,
My boyfriend's parents
had a really, really bad divorce when he was little. It
really makes it hard for him to express his emotions.
But it is hard for me,
too – we are having a baby in about 2 weeks and he
still cannot tell me he loves me. He says he feels it,
but can not express it. It is soooo hard for him to make
commitments, also.
What should I do aout this?
- Very Confused
Female, age 18, USA
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Back up about 9 months
and use contraceptives. |
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Dear Panel,
I was in love with this
boy for 2 years, until I realised that he didn't have
feelings for me at all, and we became really close friends.
But recently, when we both
had a bit to drink, we kissed (and things). Thats happened
twice now and when he's around me he flirts with me.
I think my feelings for
him are coming back, what shall i do?
- Dreamgirl
Female, age 18, England
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Stop drinking. |
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Dear Panel,
Me and my girlfriend have
been going out for 4 months. We're both virgins and we're
always together and I love her very much. She's 15 and
i'm 17.
Well, on the day of our
1st aniversary, we were making out and she told me that
she wanted to have sex and I asked her many times to make
sure because she had wanted to save it for when she got
married.
We tried having sex but
it hurt her so we stopped. Her cherry didn't pop.
Now she regrets what she
did and wants to wait till she gets married! I feel very
bad and I think that she doesn't love me anymore. What
can be wrong? Why the sudden change of mind? I haven't
really discussed it with her because I don't want her
to think i'm a dickhead.
What should i do ?
- Confused 72442
Male, age 17, Miami
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Either stop dating virgins or stop being a dickhead.
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Reality check: this is not all about you. She's ONLY
15. She tried sex, it hurt her, she got scared, and realized
that her first instinct, to not have sex, was the right
one. There's no "you" in there. She still loves
you.
But if you want to discuss it, go ahead. Girls love communication.
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2 choices:
A) Wait to marry her and try again.
B) Talk to her and fix the guilt.
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Dear Panel,
My wife of 22 yrs says
she doesn't love me anymore and that she wants a divorce.
She has left me with my
4 kids and is staying with her mom.
I need to know if there
is a chance of her learning to love me again and if so
I need ideas to use to bring that about!
Please help me!
- Jack
Male, age 39, Texas
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Talk to Hope
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I wouldn't bother...find someone else
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I rarely say this but, Dude just give up...wait, I'm
lying...I do say that
a lot.
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Can you say "mid-life crisis"? She married
young, had lots of kids, never felt what it was like to
be on her own... she wants a taste of freedom before she's
too old to enjoy it.
Ask for a separation, not a divorce, and let her roam
free for awhile. Unless you're a jerk, she'll probably
miss the family and come home eventually.
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Dear Panel,
How can i learn to stop
basing my feelings on my boyfrind's reactions?
It's the classic case of
trying to please your own parents...then you get out in
the world and you learn to do things to make yourself
happy first.
Well, now i am a year plus
into a relationship and if i try to do something to make
him happy and he doesn't respond the way i think he should...i
am crushed.
It ruins my whole day.
- S
Female, age 22, USA
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My sister tells her husband how to react. Then he does
it. Might work.
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Dear Panel,
In the beginning of the new school
year my class got a new teacher for Latin. He's young,
about 25. That is much younger then my average teachers.
At first I didn't really like the teacher.
But after a few months I started really to like him. Since
then I can't stop thinking about him.
He's my favourite teacher. I'm afraid
to ask him what he thinks of me. I've also started to
get very weird dreams about him. I don't know what to
do!!!!!!!!
Next year I will probably never see
him again. Because of him my grades have gotten better.
Even my friends tell tell that I start blushing everytime
I have to answer a question.
What should I do?
- Candy
Female, age 15, Europe
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Keep up the good work! |
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Two words for you: Jail bait!!! |
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I think its just a silly little
crush!!! 3 words for you: 10 YEARS OLDER!!!! 3 more: HE'S
YOUR TEACHER!!! Enough said! |
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Yo, they still teach Latin? What's up with that?
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Dear Panel,
My boyfriend has a bad
temper and always twists things around so that it is my
fault.
Is there a way to overcome
this?
- Bunny
Female, age 19, Canada
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Yes. Tell him that it is his fault that you are saying,
"Goodbye."
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Yes. Twist yourself around and walk out the door.
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Yeah - get a new boyfriend |
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Dump him.
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Dear Panel,
What are the stats on an older woman 34, younger man 24
relationship success rates?
- Mario
Female, age 34, USA
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48% of the older women say they were influenced by "How
Stella Got Her Groove Back."
33% of the younger men say they were just looking for
a hot babe as
close to menopause as possible.
I don't know what this has to do with your question,
but godspeed.
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From my perspective: 100%
n=2 (that I know of)
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I thought that women that age wanted to base relationships
on love rather than statistics.
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Dear Panel,
I have been with
my boyfriend for 3 happy months. He has been great
to me within that time, and we spend a lot of time
together.
Around a month ago
he lost his job. Within the last while he has become
more distant, and I have become desperate and clingy.
I used to be strong, but now all I think about is
him.
Last weekend he started
to become even more distant, and told me that he
needed his space to think things out with his life,
and his job.
I left a message
on his phone 3 days ago saying that I respect his
need for space, and I will always be here for him.
I even phoned him that night to see if had received
my message and to hope that his day was a little
less stressfull.
I have not heard
from him since. I'm freaking out.
Will he call? Should
I move on? should I phone him again? Does he want
to break up with me?
- Candygirl
Female, age 24,
Canada
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He's going through a hard time, but it doesn't sound
like he needs your help.
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No. Yes. No. Yes.
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Sounds like a break up to me.
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Dear Panel,
My boyfriend and
I are very much in love,and recently he turned himself
into jail to take care of some past problems he
had so we can get that out of the way and start
a good life together.
I am 19, and he is
23. We plan on getting married when he gets out
of jail, in about 6 months.
I just want to know
what is the best way to stay positive while we are
going through this rough time?
- Boyfriend in Jail
Female, age 19,
Texas
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Date. |
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Focus on planning the
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