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Dear Panel,
How do I know if the
person I'm dating or having sex with is not cheating
on me?
We have been together
for a year and a half.
Well, I think I know,
but what do you think?
– Tink
Female, age 18, “the city”
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Yep. |
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Half the time, if you think they are: they are.
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Oh you're a female...you know....
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I think that if you are worrying about this, you probably
don't have a very good relationship.
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Dear Panel,
I am a 27 year old female,
small framed, no kids, but married.
I made a service call
on my washer and dryer unit I had recently purchased.
The guy who made the service call was irresistible.
He was a charmer. Let’s call him Tony.
He had broken off his relationship with Lucy. She has
2 kids and was the friend of one of his closest friends.
We began dating and later
married. Now I found out that the ex, "Miss Lucy"
went from his girlfriend to his mistress.
What am I going to do?
– Too Good to be
True
Female, Age 27, from the “South”
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Get another repairman who sticks to appliances and keep
Tony away from your plumbing.
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When the washer/dryer broke, you made the effort to fix
it. A marriage is more valuable than a washer/dryer.
Call a marriage repair person and fix it.
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See, this is what
happens to small framed women with broken washers in love
with men named Tony. It's fate...accept it. |
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Tell Tony to take
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Dear Panel,
I said to cool off. So
why do I want to take it back?
Because it feels that I'm
abandoning him with his problems? What can I do? Should
I call him?
– Ap
Female, age 22, USA
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Yes. Call him and give him
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Dear Panel,
I am presently going out
with this cool guy but he is pretty shy. And I don’t
like it.
What do you think I can do?
Also he is too into himself.
Not that we don’t talk , but there is no romance
in the whole relationship. In a long run , he is not the
romantic type and I don’t like it.
So please tell me how I
can make a change with out being the man in the relationship.
– RANA
Female, age 17, Africa
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Making a change is easy:
dump this guy and find someone who starts out the way you
like 'em. |
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Dear Panel,
I am a single mom of two
kids. I recently started dating my friend of 8 years.
We have always had a crush on each other, and decided
that we wanted to be together as a couple.
We've been together for
about six months now and decided to move in together.
Am I crazy for thinking
that he should ask me to marry him? I don't know why we
should wait since we've known each other for so long.
– Lovely
Female, age 22, Minnesota
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Nope. If he doesn't ask,
you should. |
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There's a difference between
being friends, crush objects, and life partners. Just 'cuz
you've known each other in other ways doesn't necessarily
mean you're meant to marry. He's thinking about that. Perhaps
you should, too. |
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thing to think of, but how do you think this will affect
your 2 kids? |
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Dear Panel,
My friend is dating my
Ex.
Me and him went through
a lot and we're friends now but I know him and he's using
her bad. He's the kinda guy that goes through the same
motions with all his girlfriends the same sweet lines
to make them all fall for him, the same look in his eyes.
He has had soo many girlfriends, and she is soo naive
and innocent, everyone but her sees that he is taking
advantage of that.
I want to say something
to her because I really care about her and I don't want
her to get hurt, but how do I say something without sounding
like nothing more than a bitter ex????
– Caring not Bitter
Female, age 17, USA
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You don't. Get
over him. |
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Well for starters,
don't say anything like what you just wrote, because you
sure sound like a bitter ex!!!! |
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Dear Panel,
I just broke up with my
boyfriend about a month ago, but I know he still has some
feelings for me. We're really close friends and we spend
a lot of time together. I broke up with him because I
couldn't see a future with him, but I'd give anything
to stay his close friend.
He started dating my friend,
and she has a hard time accepting that my ex and I have
such a close relationship. I guess she feels jealous that
he and I get along so well. We have so much together,
it's beyond friendship, but it's not love either.
I'm feeling like she's
stealing him away from me, and it hurts. I know it's silly
though, he even told me that all the girls he meets can't
be more than just shadows of me.
I don't want them together, but I don't wanna be the one
breaking them up. What should I do? I'm stuck.
– Player
Female, age 18, from the “left”
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You're playing games. You broke it off, silly, so you
need to move on. For your sake and for his. He'll pine
if he wants to, but he'll get over it. And so will you.
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You want to have your cake and eat it too.
Please, get a life.
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Wait a sec... this friend that he is dating... it wouldn't
be "Caring not Bitter", would
it?!?
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Dear Panel,
Me and my girlfriend have
been through a lot lately and she has been there for me
a lot. What should I do to show my thanks and how much
I really love her?
– Anonymous
Male, age 17, New York
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Keep on being there a lot, preferably with chocolate
and flowers.
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Dear Panel,
I went to a club. I met
a guy, we danced, then he took me home and we became intimately
involved, and I lost my virginity to him.
He told me that he would
call. It has been two days. Is it normal for guys to always
call late?
– Lynn Rose
Female, age 18, USA
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Normal for guys like this one.
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It's more normal in this situation for them NEVER to
call. You just had your first one night stand. Stinks,
doesn't it? Don't do it again.
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Wow...naivete is so sweet...sure he'll call.
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Why would he call? He got what he wanted.
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Dear Panel,
How can I make a long distance relationship
work and flourish?
– seperated lover
Female, age 18, Canada
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Move. |
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You can't do it alone. If you're
both aware of that, then there's a chance. |
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I never succeeded. If you find
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Dear Panel,
What does it mean when
my boyfriend of 1 year tells me that we should stop making
love/having sex?
According to him, so that
there would be more excitement, thrill, between the two
of us.
– lilsteps
Female, age 20, Philippines
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...Hold on...let me catch my breath...must...stop...laughing....
okay....
You actually bought that crap, didn't you?
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I think finding another boyfriend should add a whole
'nother level of excitement and thrill too.
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Dear Panel,
I am in love with a married
guy.
Well, recently I caught
him seeing some woman without my knowledge. And when I
told him about it he shirked it off saying that it was
nothing but to boost his moral ego and that he loves only
me.
We live in different cities
and how do I get convinced whether he really loves me
or not?
– Carrie
Female, age 25, India
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Oh please.
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Get a clue - you are just another loop in his chain.
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It doesn't matter if he loves you or not. He's Married!!!
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Wake up! You have all the proof you need that he doesn't
love you . He cheats on his wife, he cheats on his mistress...
he's using you and all the other women in his life to
stroke his ego. That's not love, honey.
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Dear Panel,
I am a virgin, who
plans on staying that way until marriage. However,
my boyfriend, whom I love very much, is not a virgin.
Although he doesn't
pressure me, I know he wants (as do I) our relationship
to have more of a physical side.
Do you have any suggestions
on how to spice things up without compromising my
decision to remain a virgin? (think: limited college
budget)
– Miss Innocent
Female, age 18, Minnesota
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Be creative – skinny dip, romantic dinners,
spice doesn't have to equal sex.
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Approach the problem orally.
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Go to Bible study with Hope
6 days a week, and G rated movies on the 7th.
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You're in college, just do it already. Stop Dawson
Creeking it and just go for it, Joey!!!!!!
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