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Dear Panel,
I am a 16-year-old female
who recently had sex with a 21-year-old male. He said
he really liked me and I believed him, I really don't
think he was just saying that to get me to sleep with
him because he said that long before sex was even a
possibility. We have talked since and he seems to still
like me, actually for me. He said he doesn't want a
relationship because he just got out of a long relationship
with his babies' mother – he has 3 kids.
Just to let everyone
know, I made sure he used protection.
Anyways I was wondering
what I should do. Should I persue him or let it all
go and just be friends with him? I really do like him
a lot but I think I blew it since I gave it up to him
so soon.
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanx.
– Confused
Female, Age 16, USA
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He said it before sex was a possibility? You mean before
he reached puberty? more...
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21 year old guys who say they like you way before "the
possiblity of sex" know that they are going to get
some from the naive 16 year old.
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- You didn't blow the realtionship with him –
there was none.
- You're more mature than he is – proved by using
protection.
- You don't really need our help – you know what
to do: Find someone your age who's not a jerk.
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Dear Panel,
I am talking to a great
guy, who is of a different race than myself.
My parents won't say
it openly, but I can tell they have a big problem with
this. He's really great and I would like to stay with
him.
What should I do?
– A Little Sad
and Confused
Female, age 22, New
England
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Stay with him and take the heat.
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Dear Panel,
It is now spring break,
I had thought my boyfriend and I would do something together,
but he says he has no time. What does that mean???
Lately, he has been making
dates then breaking them like the next day. I am new to
this relationship thing, so I am clueless as to what to
do.
Please Help
– Seeking Advice
Female, age 16, Florida
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Of course your boyfriend doesn't
have time for you; he's busy spending it with some other
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This was your first lesson in the relationship thing.
The lesson is: time for a new boyfriend.
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Perhaps he really is too busy for a relationship.
Perhaps he's trying to let you down easy.
The reason isn't important. If you aren't seeing him
as much as you want because he's not available, find someone
who is.
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Dear Panel,
Next week is my first month
anniversary with my boyfriend.
I don't know what to do
for him. I was thinking of leaving a card in his locker
and other stuff but that seems so simple.
Help me.
– Clueless
Female, age 15, Philippines
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This irks me: there is no such thing as a one month "anni"versary.
Don't you guys know your Latin prefixes?
And oh – get him a nice sweater.
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Dear Panel,
I recently was having sex
with this girl and the condom broke.
She is not on the Pill,
but had her period just a few days prior.
What are the chances of
pregnancy??
– Sleepless in St.Cloud
Male, age 20, USA
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Pretty slim if she has her next period on time.
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Dear Panel,
How I know when it is the
right time to end a 12 year relationship that has no hope
of moving forward? My boyfriend doesn't want anything
to change.
– D.D.
Female, age 38, Midwest
USA
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Just listen to me. It's time.
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When you realize that there is no hope of moving forward.
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10 years ago.
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Dear Panel,
My crush keeps staring
at me when I have him for classes and in lunch once he
was behind me – ohh.
Anyway, does he like me?
And also how can I flirt
with a cute guy?????????
Answer my questions a.s.a.p
(both questions) PLZ!!!!
– Marina
Female, age 14, Florida
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You'll never know if he likes you until you talk to him.
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You flirt with a cute guy the same way that you do with
an ugly one.
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Wow! Sounds like mutual city!
Go get him girl!
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Dear Panel,
I`m 20 years old and from
Canada. I`m currently going out with the love of my life!
The problem is she is
15. Is there anything wrong morally with this? We do not
have sex, I stated to her I would wait for her and even
marry her if she is still intrested in me at that time.
We merely kiss, talk and tell each other our deepest secrets.
So is there anything wrong
morally with this relationship?
– John O.
Male, age 20, Canada
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If you didn't believe there was something wrong with
this, you wouldn't be asking us.
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No.
But be prepared for her to outgrow you. 18 year old women
are different than 15 year old girls.
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Not as long as you keep your paws off of her – and
you'd better.
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Dear Panel,
I have been dating "James"
for five years now. We met in college and we've carried
on a pretty steady relationship. I have a job that pays
decent, while James' job pays about $8.50 an hour (he's
getting experience in a promising computer field).
We both still live with
our parents, and while I cannot wait to move out in 8
months, James shows no interest in leaving the nest. This
bothers me. It also bothers me that he is critical, hot
and cold, and abhors the topic of marriage.
I would love to marry him,
he is very special, all the same. What should I do...leave
him? Or hang on until he gets a better job (I think the
commitment is linked to this)?
– Marie
Female, age 25, Florida
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Honey, I know a lot of computer geeks who have moved
out of their parents' home and who can handle commitment.
Find one.
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Boy, people just never stop hooking up with losers.
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Say to him, "Y'know, I'm really wanting to get married.
So if you're not interested, I think that I'd better start
dating other people as well as you – you know I think
you're special, but I don't want to still be dating when
I'm 35."
Be prepared for the consequences; you'll get what you
want, but it might not be James.
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Dear Panel,
There is this guy in my class, and he
is a freshman and I am a junior and he is in love with
me but won't tell me.
What should I do? Should I like him
or not? HELP!
– Crazy
for Stephen
Female, age
17, USA
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not REALLY in love with you if he won't tell you, but I
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Dear Panel,
Is it all right for a man
to get jealous for a woman talking to another man when
I'm around?
– Jan
Male, age 17, Asia
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Depends on if Yu Da Man.
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What do you have to do with this jealous man and this
woman who's talking to him?
Wait...I'm confused.
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No.
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Only if it's all right for said man to be a controling
bastard.
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Dear Panel,
Can I still be in love
with my Ex after being apart for a year??
– Luv4ever
Female, age 22, Australia
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You tell me.
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I don't know – can you?!?
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Yes.
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Yes. But it would be better if you got over it.
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Dear Panel,
I just met a girl
Eleanor who I had been ICQing and e-mailing. She's
intelligent, has a great sense of humor, talented,
makes a lot of money, smells good, wears nice clothing,
likes basketball, is a great cook, has a beautiful
singing voice, and loves dogs. She's my dream woman!
I think she's crazy about me, and I think I could
love her if she wasn't overweight.
Maybe if she lost
20 lbs she wouldn't embarrass me if we're seen in
public. How do I tell her?
– Not Attracted
to Fat Chicks
Male, age 25, Los
Angeles
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Tell her exactly what you told us, and hope she's
looking for a guy who's totally shallow.
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She's not your dream woman if you are too embarrassed
to be seen in public with her.
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If you care about her like you think you do, don't
tell her. Just go far far away from her. That will
really help her out.
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If you'd let 20 pounds stand between you and love,
you're not really looking for love. Love isn't a
shape or a size.
You're the one with the problem – not her.
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You are an ass and don't deserve Eleanor. If she
is willing to overlook your insensitivity and arrogance,
you should overlook her weight.
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Dear Panel,
How do I get over
a bad relationship? Does the pain ever lessen?
– Broken-Hearted
Female, age 19,
India
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It's easier than getting over a good relationship.
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