Dear Panel,

There's this girl in one of my classes. Sometimes she's really friendly, and other times she's cold. She writes little notes and stuff on my papers and folders, but once again... sometimes she's cold.

Another problem is that we're really different people. She's kind of a party girl and I'm not. I'm not a total bookworm, but I don't go out drinking or anything like that.

So –

– should I pursue?
– and how?

– Clueless

Male, age 15, USA

Buy the confusing cold girl a coat.

Movies and sitcoms have you thinking that people only have two-dimensional personalities.

Just because she's cold doesn't mean anything – that's her. Go for it.

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Dear Panel,

I'm currently engaged to a girl I've dated for almost 2 years, and won't be married for another 2.

I've recently began to have strong feeling for my female best friend/ ex-girlfriend, Should I tell my friend about these feelings? Or my fiancée? Should I just hide them? HELP!

– HELP

Male, age 21, St. Cloud, Minnesota, USA

You might want to tell yourself that you're not quite ready for marriage.

Don't talk, don't hide – think. When you've figured some stuff out, then open your mouth. Not before.

I like to call this "last chance syndrome".

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Dear Panel,

I am in a relationship with a woman who has been abused and hurt real bad. I am in love with her and her with me.

I slipped up and told her a lie but I regret it more than anything I have ever done in my life. I really love this girl and I want more than anything to make her see that she can trust me but I know it is going to be hard but I really don't want to lose her.

What can I do to make her see that I am for real. I would die for this girl and she the first girl that I have ever told that I would marry her.

Please tell me where I need to start to make this right.

– Nad

Female, age 22, Maylasia

Depends on how big the lie was.

Why don't you start by telling her some of this crap? It just might work.

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Dear Panel,

At what point are you "dating" someone?

I've been seeing a guy since Feb. 11th. I've seen him a total of about 5 times, and receive e-mail from him about 3 to 5 times a week... A few phone calls thrown in from time to time. Nothing real consistent.

Just wanted to know before I let my emotions get the best of me.

– Out of the Loop

Female; age 32; Greenville, South Carolina, USA

I guess you are dating him. But "dating" doesn't mean that you have to feel anything serious at all.

I've let my feelings get the best of me after one phone call. You're dating.

You're HOW old?

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Dear Panel,

My boyfriend has been receiving calls from the woman who is throwing herself on him. This makes me mad – I don't know what to do.

I love my man and we've been together for five years now. Do I call this lady myself?

Will doing so not degrade my morality and dignity? I am so frustrated – please help!!

– Mpumi

Female, age 22, Africa

Don't call her. Talk to the boyfriend and tell him if he if he loves you, he will stop or avoid her. Then see what he does.

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Dear Panel,

What is the most common reason why cupples break up?

Male, age 14, USA

They discover they don't like each other.

Because they don't get along with each other.

Most common reason is one member has cheated on partner.

Spelling problems?

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Dear Panel,

Hi. This is Neitarsha From Livingston, AL. I just want to ask you If you’re fine first. I hope you are.

Well, my question is: How does a boy that is about 17 really show his love?

– Neitarsha C.

Female, age 17, USA

Thanks for your concern. It's really special, since no one ever seems to care about our welfare. It's always "me, me, me!" Things are going okay here.

Our dog got run over last night, I can't seem to stop eating chocolate, and I wish my husband and I had more time to have fun together, but otherwise everything's okay. Work is going great, I'm making new friends... Thanks for asking.

All 17 year-old boys want to really show their love by bedding every 17 year-old girl in a 5 mile radius. They have plenty o' love.

Through his words and actions.

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Dear Panel,

I have met my tall dark and handsome prince, but I don't know if I should let my wall down and go with what my heart says. He is a baseball player for a minor league team. He travels a lot and could have any girl he wants. He is a perfect gentleman, and is a great guy to be around, with looks to boot!

My question is, should I get my hopes up and try and take this forward or step back and try not to like him? He is not your typical jock with an attitude, he is very sweet and shy! Help!!!!!

– Crystal

Female; age 22; Maine, USA

Duh! If he's interested in you, too, go for it! Judge the guy, not the stereotype.

Take it slow! One base at a time.

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Dear Panel,

In 5 months, my boyfriend broke up with me 3 times.

I talked to his parents afterwards, and he claimed that I was ruining his life. Well, now all of a sudden, he decided to talk to me. He got a new girlfriend in a week. I am still really good friends with his parents. They tell me that he still cares for me, and I think he does, too.

He is really influenced by his friends. My best friends were going out with his best friends. We all got dumped on the same day (3rd time for me) and they are all going out with another group of girls now. I think that they still like us, but how can I be sure?
They are really confusing.

I need advice. Thanks.

– Kristy

Female, age 14, Canada

Sounds like the boy bunch are a bunch of jerks. Move on!

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Dear Panel,

I'm thinking what would be the most reason why my man or boyfriend loves me so much even though I'm not a virgin anymore?

Is it real love?

I love him so much but I want to test if the reason is true love, or that he just don't want to leave me because I'm kind.

Please help me.

– June

Female, age 19, Philippines

If you think that men can only love virgin women, then you need more help than just with this guy.

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Dear Panel,

Actually, I am not in a relationship.

It is just that I have had this major crush on my friend for 8 months and he never did notice me...

Now I have a feeling that he loves my best friend. I don't know what I should do – can you give me some advice please?

– Lovestruck & Confused Girl

Female, age 14, Singapore

The boy can't read your mind. Tell him how you feel!

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If you don't see him, then it won't work.

Why don't you ask him for his email address, and then you can chat with him as easily as you can chat with us.

It's not at all stupid that you're so young. But soon you will be older and will find another, even better guy to love. Be patient.

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Dear Panel,

I like and was messin' around with guy while he had a girlfriend.

He still has one and I still have feelings for him. Yes, he knew how I felt. He told me that we should keep as friends and it has been about 3 weeks since we've talked.

Help me please. What should I do?

– Val

Female; age 18; Arkansas, USA

It looks like he just wanted a fling with you. Best to move on.

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Dear Panel,

I would like to have sex with my boyfriend. But how must I begin?

I am a virgin and do not have experience.

Please tell me how I must begin and finish .

Thanks,

– Psycho

Female, age 15, Netherlands Antilles

If you have to ask, then don't do it.

Tell your boyfriend, and he'll probably take care of the rest.

Start by taking off your clothes.

Finish with a warm damp washcloth.

Begin with a condom and end without a baby.

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